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Hi fishes! I had asked for benefits other than CTC which Bank of America provides & now that I've completed 1 month here, here's the list of allowances you'll be getting irrespective of position/band:
1. Sodexo: 1300 p.m./ 15,600 p.a.
2. Transport allowance: 900 one way, 1800 two ways p.m./ 21,600 p.a.
3. Internet: 1500 max p.m. (other than that, one time installation charges)
4. Tuition fee: Any certification related to your field. Like CFA, FRM etc. 3,00,000 p.a.
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Stop with the 'benefits'. If he stays then good, if he goes then he is a POS. Basically all you can do.
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I'm not condoning this (maybe a little). But if you're pressed for time and he doesn't bite down on the open convo, start dating someone else and you'll find out v fast where he stands.
Serious question, do you actually have enough time to invest in a more committed relationship?
@Lazard1 I know plenty of folks in serious, healthy relationships that are in banking
Just ask him straight up. You had the hustle to make it in banking and chances are you're pretty since there's usually always a hiring bias in banking so I don't really see what practical reasons he would have to turn you down. Unless he just doesn't want a relationship in which case at least you threw the idea out there.
Simple answer, tell him you are looking for something more and you are going to start dating. If he feels the same way then you'll be dating him
She basically would find things to do on the weekend for us to do together. Concerts, museums, random things going on in NYC. I never went out of my way to see her besides when she came over as a fwb but was open to it when she wanted to hang out otherwise. From there that became something I'd look forward to. She also started sleeping over (we were mostly always at my place bc I lived alone, she had roommates) on weeknights whenever we both didn't work too late. Next thing I know she's got a toothbrush and a drawer. She didn't know many of my friends and nor I hers so after about a month of us doing couple-like stuff together we started introducing each other to our friend groups. By the time she started meeting more of my friends I realized we were pretty much in a relationship without any title and we had never had a conversation about it. So one day I mentioned it to her and we dated for six months after that.
Too bad I don't know your name hahah
Hey not saying it can't be done, I'm in one too. Just saying that transitioning from FWB to a serious relationship usually means stepping up the hours and attention/effort you put in.
@lazard1 obviously I'm willing to do that. I'm not sure he is and how to make him take it to the next serious step haha wanted to hear from bankers perspective bc he's one too LOL
Does he know your friends? Does he ever hang out with you outside of your respective apts or bars after midnight? Try to get him to do something both sober and during the day on a weekend just the two of you. If he is cool with that and into it, then do more.
I wouldn't just start a conversation about looking for more. Upfront works if you think it will anyways but it can also scare guys with commitment issues away. The best thing is to get the needle moving towards relationship without them even realizing it. This is coming from experience as a commitment-phobe guy who had a FWB that turned into a relationship because girls are crafty and I didn't even realize it until I was basically in one.
We were hooking up for a few months before we started actually doing anything besides that together hah. It was summer, so she started inviting me to do things like go to smorgasburg or the met, etc. fun NYC stuff. Once she made the effort I started reciprocating and it kind of went from there.
@pe1 thanks that helps! So how was that girl crafty? Apparently I'm not crafty haha and wanna know what she did or how she approached it
@PE1 that helps a lot! I totally know what you mean now. Basically without the title, keep seeing them and hangout. Did she initiate most of the text conversations and asking you to hangout in the beginning of your FWB relationship?
@pe1 Gotchaaaaa okay I think I know what to do now! Thanks so muchhhh 😀