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Any desi NJ women with kid(s) that are divorced? What’s it like to share custody? How do your kids deal with it?

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Each state has different laws related to custody

Depends on age of kids and how the relationship is with (ex) spouse as well as drop-off/pick-up clearly agreed to no-drama guidelines. Lots of variables but key is both parents don’t “use” kids to get at each other and one doesn’t behave way out of normal so kids favor one stint over the other. Gets more complicated if another SO is in the house at either end. Kids will adjust well…it is the adults one has to worry about.

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I’ve seen it range. 1. Friend A didnt have such a great relationship with her ex and they would meet at the local courthouse to drop the kid off. Her ex had remarried and his new wife wasn’t so nice to the son. So the son/kid hated going to his dads house. My friend eventually remarried and moved states. 2. Friend Bf’s ex wife bad mouthed him on fb and they share a son. Initially they would meet up at the local starbucks and the son didn’t necessarily enjoy spending time with his dad. But now Friend B’s ex wife invites him on vacations with her and the son and I’m pretty sure they sleep together here and there. And the son is happier too knowing that his parents interact in some way. So like I said - it ranges

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