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Any fishes here date / marry the opposite political party? How is it working out for you? How are you making it work?

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You find common ground in underlying motivation (i.e. you both care about how to enhance the wellbeing of people but disagree on how) and accept the disagreements on policy or severity of problems in good faith. If you assume youre each approaching it in good faith and hear each other charitably you wont have an issue... as with most things in marriage.

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My spouse and I have same party affiliation, but his family is all conservative, ranging from science deniers to full fledge Trump flag waivers... so holidays are interesting with them. It’s helpful for me because I see they are good people, but I’ve definitely blocked them from social media feeds and learned to not talk about global warming. The only time political talk creeps in is when they ask me why we don’t have kids yet, and I honestly tell them it’s because of our current political/global/socioeconomic situation...

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Didn’t work out once I realized her immediate family was racist, and believed my catholic relatives were going to hell.

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I fluctuated between left and right as a moderate who dated a far left female. I'm a guy and despite my liberal and progressive left leaning, I didn't realize how extreme some left people are. I found out she was a feminist. Her misandry and hatred of men became worse during her job as an attorney in litigation. It literally drove apart. She generalized things about all men and channeled her anger on me. Feminists don't want equality, they want female supremacy. I just want equality but I can't call myself a feminist after I learned so much about the new wave of feminism

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I’m a minority woman myself and do not associate myself with the term “feminist.” Just as EY 1 said, this “new wave of feminism” is driving many people away. Almost everyone wants equality, but the hatred and extreme views of many people waving the modern-day feminism flag is a huge turn-off.

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it can workout... unless one of you is far left/right. I'm mostly in the center and my SO is a little more to the left but also close to the center. I'm not sure I could be with someone who is far left/right because some of their arguments don't see fact-based and seem like very aggressive people

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Yes. I’m right leaning and spouse is left leaning. It works out great. We both vote every year and we help the other see the good and the bad in each party’s policies. Only awkward moment was when he outed me at a dinner party to our friends. Oops. 🤣

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Yep exactly what PwC 3 said.

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Why wouldn’t it work, assuming neither of you is rabid about it? And surely your friend group has folks from both sides

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It works. Like the comment above suggests, the biggest problem is his racist family. His family has a history of mental health issues and addiction so I tolerate it; if that wasn’t there it would near impossible to accept them / stay with him if they were “rational” and still held their wild beliefs.

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It doesn’t work. Period. Used to work when we still had a free country but not in the current sociopolitical climate. If a partner is right leaning he/she would most likely be fine to live with a leftist. Not the other way around. How can you be “on the right side of history” and share your life with a “racist”, right?

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You don’t see how Trump could be a bit of a deal-breaker, do you? He LIVES to rage against “the other.” If you’re going to support him, you don’t really get to complain about partisanship. “When we still had a free country...” Loss of privilege is not the same as repression.

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It works since I dedicate my entire life to the Lincoln project now

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Just saw the latest. I hope you are actually at the Lincoln Project—really incredible work. I’m trying to make my fellow Democrats more reasonable too. We can get this country back on a sane track. Let’s make sure this November we show that the far left does not represent the Democratic Party and Trumpism does not represent conservatives.

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Heck no. I have morals and integrity

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@ Deloitte 6: I remember when Trump was banning international travel early on, and all the liberal media was attacking him saying it was unnecessary and extreme. Oh how the tables have turned... People also need to realize that in the USA, power is given to the states – kind of like mini countries. That’s how this country was set up and has operated. So each governor is making decisions on shutdowns and masks, which is impacted by their constituency’s demographics. Early on, people weren’t taking COVID-19 seriously hence why governors weren’t making masks mandatory (also because there was conflicting info on wear a mask then the authorities said don’t wear a mask then flip-flopped again). A governor making a move too early = pissing off their residents = bad political PR, and we know politics has become a career path rather than a temporary office. So more hardcore moves weren’t made until after things got ugly. If Trump had made some federal mandate to apply to all states, you best believe the liberal media would have attacked him for being like a dictator. And states would have sued the federal government & struck down the mandate as unconstitutional, as again: states are given their own power in the USA. So no matter what, the left is gonna find something to complain about and blame Trump. Damned if he does, damned if he doesn’t. COVID-19 has been and continues to be a developing situation, especially early on. How come the left isn’t blaming all the individual governors who “didn’t act early enough” ? Real easy to judge sitting in our shoes, but all the judgment is directed at one man (Trump) anyway. I remember when he made a SOTU address that was very unifying and spoke about America rallying together. The liberal media was calling it divisive. What a joke. Trump is nowhere near a perfect man. He has flaws and has done bad things. Just like Hillary, just like Bush, just like Obama and Clinton – just like any presidential candidate. Trump being poised for presidency is a result of people being fed up with the PC cancel culture, the enflamed race relations that began taking off ~12 years ago, the entitlement attitude problem, the scapegoat blame game of blame XYZ for your problems, etc. And so congrats, all of this BS has resulted in a man like Trump becoming president. Is he perfect, no, is he evil, also no. Everything he does is dramatized and twisted to fit a narrative and fuel division. Because fueling division creates power. Never has a president been treated so poorly. George Washington warned in his farewell address that political parties would tear the country apart. So here we are, pitted against each other, the media & powers at large intentionally stirring up division and tension to intensity identity politics and keep power in the hands of politicians. Keep people fighting against one another to distract them from corrupt career politicians who want to keep their cushy titles & feeding out empty rhetoric to give people hope, trick people into keeping them dependent and keep themselves in power. Etc etc etc. How do people not see this happening. It’s sad. Reminds me of George Orwell’s book “Animal Farm.” Those pigs were crafty. Their mantra “Four legs good, two legs bad” reminds me of the current mantra “_____ good, orange man bad.” In the end, the pigs (AKA politicians) became exactly what they were initially denouncing. Their mantra flipped to “Two legs good, four legs bad.”

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I’m liberal and she’s probably more conservative but certainly doesn’t support the president so we see pretty much eye to eye on that

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Passionate sex kills all bad fillings we got on each other's poltical views. After being together so long we just have learned to agree to disagree and move on.

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