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Any insight into why a colleague literally never addressing me by name in email or on the phone, but will address everyone else? For instance, her emails to me will be “hi” or “morning” and to others “Hi Sam” or “Good morning”. I think it’s just her passive aggressive nature but is there more to it??

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Do you have a particularly long name or one from a different culture than that colleague is from? How is your relationship with her otherwise? Fwiw, I always read the "Hi Samantha" as more formal/passive aggressive (depending on the person) than a "Hi Sam" or "Hi".

Sometimes I do that when I’m not sure whether the person goes by a nickname or not.

Also on the other hand, sometimes “hi (name)” feels too formal. There isn’t really a rhyme or reason as to when I use just plain “hi” or someone’s name. When I’m working quickly and need a paralegal’s help on a task, I don’t usually take the time. If your reviews have been good, I wouldn’t sweat it too much.

Hm, until reading this I didn’t realize that I sort of do what you’re talking about. I typically use a greeting + name, and if I’m exasperated because we had multiple emails about the same thing then I will start omitting the name. So you might be right that it’s a passive-aggressive thing, may be unconscious, but without more context I don’t think we on FB can say what is behind your colleague’s word choice.

Do you have a good relationship with the colleague outside of email? Are they omitting your name on emails with other folks cc’d? If the relationship is good and it’s not in emails including others, might not be an issue. I know I’ll omit names if I have a closer relationship and can be more informal, and it’s not really a passive aggressive thing. I tend the other way — if there’s a problem, that’s when I tend to put “Hi Name” and then move into the rest of it. If it bothers you, or you don’t think the relationship warrants that kind of informality, might be worth bringing up.

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