Any interracial couples? My husband and I are thinking of having a baby. Any challenges you faced raising an interracial child? Would appreciate if you can share your experience.

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Mom of two mixed babies and aunt to two more! Like the above comment, constant exposure to and immersion in both cultures is so important. For us, that means celebrating both sets of holidays, wearing traditional clothes on certain days, speaking both languages in the home (one parent, one language), frequent trips to see family in both places, media in both languages, etc. To us, both cultures are part of our childrens' heritage. They belong equally to both, and deserve to know both. On another note, racism is alive and well. We see it in the way cashiers speak to my spouse, or in how my BIL is treated differently when he's alone vs. with the family. It's painful to realize just how much changes because of skin color. But it's an opportunity for education. We can teach our children to love, and hopefully, that will trickle down to their communities.

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Can confirm the experience SM1 has as well.

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Mixed race adult here in an interracial relationship. See your future children as “double” rather than “half” of each race. Expose them to your and your partner’s culture. Teach them your languages (if you have them), your food etc. Consider moving to a place where they can experience both. My parents forced me to Sunday language classes for their native languages because they didn’t want me to just have English. I was dropped off at great aunts’ houses to learn to make traditional dishes and learn the history of both of my cultures. I sometimes hated it growing up because it felt like more homework over the weekend and time away from my friends, but now I wouldn’t trade it for anything in the world. I’m fluent in three languages and now learning my partner’s so our future children will grow up in a multi language household

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Mixed baby here 👋🏼 I struggled with identity dysmorphia that I think would have been helped by having a community of both ethinicities well-represented and present in my childhood. I found it for myself as an adult, but I missed out on so much inclusion and learning. Also, any additional languages either of you speak, PLEASE teach them those. Also- I would consider asking your friends who are mixed. If it were me, I’d want to know about what my future child might struggle with as well as his/her parents. 🤗

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SC1: I think my upbringing had a weird mix of; one of my halves (father) is sometimes demonized by the media, and it’s that same half that I should have likely assimilated to. I look like my father, my first and last name bear his heritage, and my mother weirdly studied his language in college (which is what led to her being even more excited than he about my first name). This also means they both speak another language that’s not English. I don’t speak either of their second languages. My second language is one they don’t speak, and that makes exactly as much sense as you think it does. For the purpose of this visualization, I’ll call my dad Antarctican. Despite all things (looks, language, name) all pointing to me being Antartican, a critical piece that was missing was that my father wasn’t close to his Antarctican family or any Antarcticans. My mother however, was SUPER close with hers. Her North Polean family were the ones we spent our holidays with, whose weddings we attended, and whose religion we followed. It wasn’t until I was a full grown adult that my little sister astutely pointed out to me that the North Polean clan didnt see us as North Polean, even though we were both half. We didn’t speak North Polean. We didn’t have North Polean (or neutral Americanized) names. We didn’t look North Polean. Our presence at all of the family functions simply made us, their Antarctican cousins. Since then, she and I have had the joy/pain of navigating this space where neither culture wants to completely claim us, but both cultures would rather us theirs than another’s. In North Polea, we are Antarticans. In Antarctica, we are North Polean, and in the US, people feel comfortable verbally confirming whether or not we are American. Natural citizens from the heartland, babyyyy. Someday, we will all be gentle, deep beige. Until then, I’ll relish the moments where some one asks “Are you...” and I get to bring them joy by satisfying their curiosity, and awarding them with the satisfaction of getting the *right* answer. Hope that helps. Thank you for coming to my Ted talk.

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There are still people that are racist (or very unkind) and teach their children to be racist (or very unkind). It is something that you will unfortunately have to address at some point.

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Is being unkind racist too?

How different are races ?

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It’s a serious question. Let’s not pretend like we live in a post racial era.

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Move to California...

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Mixed woman here. Very good to have both races present in the child’s life. If you have racist family members, I would make sure to check them early. And diversity is important! Make sure they are in schools with other people who look like them

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Maybe stay out of the south?

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VP Harris is a child of mixd heritage if you read anything about her right now you will see what a child would face. That said it shouldn’t be a factor if you have kids just have them and go in eyes wide open.

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My dad is white and my mother is black. My dad would get a lot of stares and looks of disappointment (in NC). Had a few instances when people would walk up to me and ask if I was ok, if it was just my dad and I in public. I'm darker than most mixed kids, so they were thinking what could this white older man be doing with this black child. Of course, things are a lot better as an adult.

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Stay out of the midwest, not the south

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Not any different than being in an interracial relationship. You do you and keep the negative enegy out.

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Me and my husband. Muslim and Christian both turned Athiest and luckily have very similar beliefs even tho we grew up in two totally different environments.

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Move to NYC if you haven’t already, and you’ll be completely fine. I’ve heard real estate got cheaper around here anyway. :P

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Mom of 2 mixed race children here. We live in a highly diverse city so I guess it could be different elsewhere but we are not seeing or feeling any special challenges, if anything, our children get to be trilingual and so culturally aware! We do Saturday school in (my) minority language to get some culture/community links, they get all the local culture thru my husband and family and they go to English school where they are exposed to the English small population. Im guessing my challenge is my children activity speaking to me in my language (without reminding them to) and that I now tend to sing/play more English and French base songs and games that I would have; had I married into my own race!

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Father of three different mixed race kids ( hispanic/white, east asian/white, and south asian/white). We never had any issues and enjoy the diversity of cultures. Funny, when you see people's reaction to the kids ( now adults) calling each other brother. My wives were all attractive so that may have made it easier to accept.

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