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Any Jewish folks here? Need help addressing a Bat Mitzvah card. The invite says “Sarah is called to the Torah as a b’nei mitzvah”. According to Google, b’nei is the plural term for boys and girls. Want to avoid assigning gender to someone I don’t know and just saying Bat (vs Bar for men). What do I say in the card… congratulations as you celebrate your Bat Mitzvah? Bnei Mitzvah? Thanks!

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Probably still bat mitzvah. Hebrew is a language that goes masculine for groups. So I'm by no means an authority, but I would guess children of the Torah is masculine for that reason. But could always write a card to avoid the term. In this occasion, in the occasion of your mitzvah, etc... or just wait for a better educated response here!

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Hahah love this. Thanks.

Just say “Mazel Tov!! I’m so excited to celebrate your special day with you”. Or if it’s already over and you are sending gift late, say they did a really great job. Love, a, b

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For those who don’t know: Bar Mitzvah = boys, Bat Mitzvah = girls. I’m stuck on the first word.

It just means she is sharing the day with someone else. Sometimes it’s a friend, sometimes a sibling. Sometimes there just are too many kids in the Synagogue to have their own date in the year. I would just say Bat Mitzvah.

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