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I happened to enjoy nursing but there is zero shame in choosing formula, and plenty of people make that decision! Fed is best. Don’t let anyone make you feel guilty about it - you do what is best for your family!
Bff is a pediatrician who constantly coached new moms to keep up breastfeeding. Then she had a kid of her own. Her perspective has shifted 180 degrees (as she’s used formula since the beginning) and now encourages moms to do what’s right for them and their baby so BOTH can thrive. The breastfeeding “lobby” is getting to the point of being almost anti-woman by inducing this direct or indirect shame and it’s absurd.
Expecting my second late this summer and I’m contemplating the same thing. I worked myself into quite a frenzy with my first not latching and going the exclusive pumping route. This post was really helpful, thank you all!
This happened with my first too, exclusive pump (then switch to formula ultimately). Was pleasantly surprised by my second who has done well with BF. Each baby is so different!!! Now wondering what to do when I go back to work...🤔. Consulting life is hard enough without pumping and breastfeeding/milk management...
I did this with my second. And third. And fourth. We just did a combo of formula and BF - mostly BF during the day and then formula overnight and we had a night nurse and took turns on nights she didn’t come. It was nice to be able to sleep - and I felt like the flexibility of a baby who would take either fave me the freedom to do what I needed to do for my older kid(s) and myself. Do you - happy mom, fed baby. Those are the checkboxes for me!
Lol did it with my first #noshame
SAME!
I realize now how much energy I wasted breastfeeding. The benefit is so limited. I was doing it just to prove I was a good mom. I actually think I regret breastfeeding my two. Made life way harder for my stay at home husband.
We collectively grant you permission to pass, if that's what you were looking for! 💯💯💯💯
This!
I did a combo of both. With my first, I had to because he was jaundiced and had trouble latching in the hospital. It was more important for him to eat something at that point. It was also less stressful for me when I needed a break and didn’t want to pump.
I’m 3 months into doing a combo. 1st month: 80/20 breast milk and formula. 2nd month: 50/50, 3rd month 20/80. My supply has not kept up (baby eats A LOT) but I’m also not trying really hard keep it up either.
I like using the breast now for soothing and topping up formula feedings. Life feels more manageable this way. Do you!
I was just mansplained breastfeeding benefits the other day (higher iq, etc) and wanted to punch that person in the face. Trying to not let it get to me. :) A sane mom = happy baby.
So actually working through my BF plan now with a laceration consultant and she was the first person who told me to start supplementing formula to make my life easier. She said you have to balance the pros of breastfeeding against what it may be doing to moms emotional/physical/mental health. I’m still BF’ing but starting to work in some formula feeds, too. A happy mom is very important, too!!! If you love nursing, that’s great. If you don’t and want to exclusively formula feed, that’s great too! Or find a happy medium and do a blend. Whatever makes your family happiest is best.
How far along are you? I’m due in a few weeks and wondering when to see lactation consultant to come up with a transition or combo plan - feels like now is too early, probably need to have the baby and figure out if I even have any supply first, but curious about how soon after to have the convo.
My mom didn't breastfeed any of her kids by choice and we all turned out perfectly fine. You do what's best for you and your family.
K1, I’ve thought about that strategy! Did you find your supply still built up ok and stayed up even with only breastfeeding during the day? I realize I should consult a Lactation consultant on that but curious if it worked fine for you
Yes, it was mostly fine. When I first started, I had to wake up some nights in the night and pump just enough to relieve the pressure but after that was ok. I also pumped after feeding just to boost supply and have some to store away.
Like all the other momma’s have mentioned fed is best. As long as baby is growing and thriving, it’s no ones business what you feed. I generally breastfeed during the day and me or hubby bottle feed breast milk middle of night so the feeding is not solely left to me. I pump when I can during the day and night to have enough for the mid night feed and I’ve done this since we came home from hospital. However, baby prefers breast (I think the sucking and closeness is comforting for her and I noticed she feeds better on breast and sometimes rejects bottle) so I don’t think I can completely switch to bottle feeding 😩. Something to keep in mind that baby may pick for you, if you do the combo
I do the same except my baby prefers bottle... I guess this may be because we started introducing bottle early on like day 2 or day3 in hospital
I pumped and supplemented with formula. If you go this route, I encourage you to make sure you pump every 4-5 hours or so, even getting up overnight to pump as well for about 10-15 minutes. This really helped up my supply since my baby wouldn’t take it right from the breast. It was annoying getting up at 2-3 to pump, but it made a difference in supply for sure.
And I totally agree - fed is best!! Go 100% formula if that’s better for you. You need your sanity just as much as Baby needs to eat!
Started out planning to exclusively breastfeed, but baby had weight gain issues (as did my first). But with the second, I decided I didn't have time to nurse and pump bc I also have a toddler. So as we added formula my supply dwindled. But, man, did those middle of the night feedings get quicker!!
You can tell the healthcare staff that are moms and not. The nurse at OB office kept shoving BF down my throat from like 8 weeks pregnant while OB was like, if BF doesn’t work then formula feed and baby will be just fine. Do what works for your family mama!
Went straight to formula w my first and will do so w my second when he arrives. I just knew for me personally it was a better choice. Do what is best for you and you don’t owe anyone an explanation. My kiddo is happy and healthy and thriving and you’d never know if she was bf or formula fed.
Remember: Happy mama, happy baby.
We are formula fed over here and love our Baby Brezza machine. Check it out.