Any mums (or hoping to be one) out there - my wife and I have a 3 yr old. Just found out yesterday that 2nd pregnancy is a miscarriage 😢 my wife is clearly taking it harder than I am. Any suggestions, advice, blogs to make sure I can help her through the next few weeks and months

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Just be present, empathetic, and comforting.

She may be feeling emotions running the gamut from inadequacy to grief to rage to hopelessness, possibly simultaneously.

Just be there for her, and let her know you’ll always be there for her, and that you love her just the same, and will love her whatever the future brings. That stability is your best gift to her right now.

Also buy chocolate truffles.

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Sorry buddy. It’s incredibly common. I guess my suggestion would be to encourage her to talk to other women- her friends, her family. I guarantee you know women who have had miscarriages.

Other than that, be there for her, spend time with her. It’s ok you’re not taking it as hard, there’s no one correct way to react

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