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Asians in Consulting

Any overseas Asians struggle with parents back home constantly pushing them to go home? I feel so stressed and incredibly guilty. With COVID, lack of visits has made this worse. Every conversation I have with them is them asking me to move back. That, or discussing how much allowance I should send back. I’m exhausted and when I shared I want to move in w my bf, it was a hard no and now we’re not talking and they’re mad at me

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I’ve learned not to listen to my parents and it’s worked really well. They know I won’t take their advice so our conversations are now very pleasant as we don’t ever disagree.

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You gotta live your life. I went through a similar phase earlier in my life. I kinda did what I felt like at that time (thinking I will live the way I want). 20 years later though, I realize my parents were right about most things I disagreed on.

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Haha nice. I have an older brother that lives to the beat of his own drums but I am the baby and the daughter sigh

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I’m just so... emotionally drained

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Why do they disapprove of your bf?

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They're right but they have to deal with that... They'll catch-up when you take a stand because they won't have a choice

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It's a dance and a negotiation--they're going to dictate the terms of your life if you continue bowing to their expectations. They'll get over their umbrage and disappointment and start seeing you as an individual once you draw your own boundaries. It took me awhile but basically--dont be afraid of disagreeing with them or doing something they don't recommend; they'll get over it

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Don’t worry cause you’re not alone! I have the same conversation with my parents every week as well. I think it’s really just learning to explain to them and eventually you will get through. If you don’t, it’s still important to make your own decisions (could be the same as what your parents think) as you will blame your parents down the line if it doesn’t work out if you follow your parents advice.

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I think at least in the short to medium term, I’m going to stay in the US. The reason is that for the majority of other consultancy firms, there are better prospects here (I can’t speak to MBB but can speak to Big 4). Ultimately I would like to return to Asia (probably not into Consulting) as I feel more comfortable and definitely feel like I could connect better culturally. Happy to continue to chat and share my thoughts.

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