Any Partners gaslighting you? Ghosting you on a regular basis, no supervision or support. And they steal your credit? Is that every partner?

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Lmao purposely not responding or reviewing documents until last minute? Yeah, I think I’m familiar

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And then when everyone has to hustle to get things filed in time sending an email about how disappointed they are with how things were handled

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I work with one who “forgets” we were supposed to meet and discuss a case. Really? Every single time? Even though there’s an outlook reminder? Just tell me you can’t make it or stop scheduling the dumb meetings.

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I have this situation with a new joiner equity partner at my firm.

He and I both joined around the same time a year ago and our clients and BD targets overlaps almost completely.

I have sought him out numerous times to discuss BD plans and to propose articles to write but he has ignored me for a year now and has always chosen other associates over me for his cases when they have zero experience in that type of work.

Have decided to stop reaching out to him, and gonna pretend he doesn't exist in the team.

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Not every but definitely out there in droves.

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This exact topic has been on my mind for several weeks. I would say the majority of the partners it’s my firm provide little to no supervision and gaslight. It’s like, please make me lots of money and don’t talk to me. Makes me feel like a peon. So much for “team work” and “mentorship”….

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I’m not sure litigation lends itself to a lot of supervision. It’s so fast paced and there’s so much to do that if you have a good associate, you’re just thankful they don’t need supervision and you can move onto item #2/50 in one of your 15 active cases. Obviously gaslighting, ghosting, no support aren’t okay.

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Is this common in litigation or something? I’m in a transactional practice and this never happens. I will follow up with partners and try to be a helpful project manager, but most of the time it’s not even necessary.

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Yeah same. I’m in a transactional practice and it’s as you described.

#NotAllPartners
#YesAllAssociates

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Mine specialises in making himself feel better by making me feel worthless. Also likes to make semi threatening declarations “if you can’t take constant feedback we need to have a more serious conversation”. The constant feedback is him essentially repeating the same criticisms three to four times a day.

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I have definitely seen this happen. However, as a partner I've had many associates who are not open to feedback. When I get a pleading or filing in draft form two days before it's due, it's sometimes difficult to review things immediately.

A huge pet peeve for me is when an associate won't own their work product. I've had more than one associate who automatically puts my name on a pleading or a lengthy status report to a client. I've asked them to change it to their name only to see them do it again on the next pleading, even after we'd had a discussion about it. I'm a big believer that you deserve the praise for a great outcome. And you should learn from less than optimal results (understanding that we are all only as good as our facts; sometimes less than optimal out of outcome isn't reflective of skill or work product.) 

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