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I’m in nyc and due with my first in January.
There’s already so much to be sad and anxious about: virtual baby shower, no maternity or baby photo shoot, grandparents can’t be at hospital, etc etc.
I’m not worried at all about them banning partners - that happened for a week or two at the start of the pandemic and they realized it was cruel and psychological effects were awful, so they changed that rule. I believe, no matter what, partners will be allowed in. Please don’t worry.
I also have a lot of pediatrician/doctor friends in nyc and there has been zero discussion around such restrictions.
Try to breathe- we got this and some awesome babies are about to enter the world!!
I’m not comfortable being indoors with photographer - my baby is due in the dead of winter so outside is not an option
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Not currently pregnant but advice would be there’s no use worrying about what you cannot control. I know it’s incomprehensible to imagine and not how you’d plan it but I promise your partner is mostly useless during labor/delivery. The nurses take great care of you and can provide anything you really need. I agree it’s best to have your partner there (if you want them of course) but if it is the worst case scenario it will be ok and you will make it!
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Due in Jan, based out of Jersey city, and worried about COVID for different reasons. My hospital mentioned that both me and husband will enter and leave the hospital together, and husband needs to have negative COVID test 72 hours before due date. Now, we can't plan when this baby decides to arrive, and that might the situation when I panic! What helped me? Talking to few friends who delivered in March-early May, wearing oxygen masks (the other cloth masks are not comfortable) and said it wasn't a bad experience, and nurses were very supportive. We can do this!
No problem! We had snack bags made but restaurants being shut down and not being able to order a meal was tough. A friend actually made us food and dropped it off at the hospital to get something other than a snack at 9pm after the baby was born.
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Would you consider a home birth? I just had one partly due to the pandemic and happy to share my experience if helpful.
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Definitely do whatever works for you and keeps you most relaxed! Assuming you also checked your hospital's specific rules about birth partners...at mine, they can be there for the entire active labour and 4 hours post birth but visiting the ward is limited (2 hours a day and have to book). I think they also now let partners attend ultrasounds again too (not the case during my pregnancy).
My first labour I had in the midwifery led unit and that was a great experience. This was my second labour so there was a bunch of other reasons that home birth worked for me -- minimal Covid exposure, didn't think I would need epidural (they did bring gas and air...just like in the show), straightforward pregnancy meant low liklihood for assisted delivery, they were able to actively manage the third stage, administer vitamin K, and stitch me up at home if needed. Apparently second babies usually come faster. Worst comes to worst, I could just go to the hospital like last time. Finally, prior to birth we talked about ambulance transfers and why they happen -- I was surprised to learn most are not 'blue light' transfers. If you are still considering home birth down the line, this study may help: https://www.npeu.ox.ac.uk/birthplace
BTW , I don't think you would necessarily need to scramble if you do go down that route. There is some prep but not much. E.g., you can usually buy/rent pools pretty easily. I didn't even have time to get in the pool because the baby came so quickly. Prepping for a home birth mentally worked out for me because I definitely would not have made it to the hospital in time!
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My sister had my second with out her partner due to covid. Partner had to stay home with toddler. My BIL rushed in the car to the hospital with toddler , dropped her off and had to take the kid back home - middle of the night. Here are some things she did :
- she visited the hospital a week before her due date and got comfortable with the area
- she had her bag in the car
- she had her iPad fully charged and they made sure we can all be together through FaceTime
It’s not ideal and my sister is a planner so as soon as covid hit she knew she has to do this alone. Honestly her first didn’t give her any experience cause it was a labor for just 30 mins. For her second she labored for 11 hours and we were all there with her virtually. You can do this mama if needed ! And I hope it doesn’t come to it . Birth is a great experience to have your partner near by .
As a FTM due in January this was my fear as well. I couldn’t imagine not having my husband in the delivery room, I would probably have an anxiety attack.
However our Doctor assured us he would be able to be there and I think most hospitals in the states are planning to do the same.
I’m a first time mom due in February and at my hospital (in CA), they are only allowing one supportive partner (i.e., spouse or doula but not both). If my partner has any COVID symptoms, he will not be allowed in to the hospital at all, and he can’t come in until I’m admitted. I’m a little nervous about having to labor alone if we get there too early to be admitted. I’ve also lined up my mom and sister as back ups in case my partner gets sick, since he has to go in to work and can’t take extra time off before the baby comes.
I know this is super stressful and just adds to the uncertainty and fear that comes with childbirth. I’m here for you and all the moms dealing with this!