Any SAHM or SAHD out there? Do you feel “useless” to your spouse because they are making money while you are staying home taking care of home business but not contributing financially?

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stay at home parents have a much greater workload than the earning partner 🤷🏼‍♀️

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Much respect to anyone who stays home.

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Neither my spouse or I are stay at home parents. But after having a kid, I wouldn’t call SAHD/SAHM as an ‘easy’ job. It has way more challenges than you would find in your day to day corporate jobs.

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For this reason I was clawing back to work at the end of my mat leave. SAHM life is too hard for me!

Think about the market value of this labor -- house cleaning, laundry services, childcare, grocery delivery, pet care, budget management, cooking, etc. The cost savings/value of this work is enormous.

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No kids, but husband stays at home, and takes care of everything at home. His career wasn't high earning (higher education), and I'm so busy that he was doing most of it anyway, so we agreed he'd stay home. For us, this works so well, and creates a balance that wasn't there when we were both working. He doesn't feel useless, and I'm very grateful for not having to do housework, cooking, laundry, errands, etc.

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Being responsible for financially supporting both of us, our dogs, and saving for the future can be stressful, but I don't resent him at all for the breakdown of work. I don't always like the project I'm working on, but overall I like what I do. I am well paid and far enough along in my career that pay increases are substantial year over year. We're both really happy with the division of labor, and it allows us to spend more quality time together than we would if he also had to work.

Husband is a SAHD. He does wedding photography on the weekends and sells his art here and there so he still contributes financially but we have it set up to where we don’t need any of that income and first priority is family. He does SO much for all of us! Our family would be in total chaos without him.

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