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Any single parents in Biglaw? How do you do it? I am a second year associate dad. I may get custody of my two boys (both under 3). It’s for their own good.

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Gosh I can’t imagine having that responsibility but I hope for their sake that you get custody. At least you make enough money to hire good help and remote work is much more acceptable now than it was just a couple of years ago. Nothing you’re doing as a second year associate is more important than being around for your kids

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I would imagine it would be necessary to hire a lot of help, and work flexibly.

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I’m not in this situation, but this is what I would do (I think). Hack it in big law for a few years to build up your skills & money, live on the cheap, pay for as much help as needed to not get fired. Then I would hang my own shingle. You will still work a lot, but it will be on your own hours. Being around for your kids is 100% more important that doing biglaw grunt work for faceless corporation A.

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Some hero’s don’t wear capes.

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I’m doing this now. I’m a single parent of 3 and a biglaw junior. It is really hard but it is doable if you can source reliable help.

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Good luck; we are pulling for you

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There is a senior person in my group who is a single parent by choice. Her hours are high/involve a lot of weekend work. I know that she has nanny care all week and for part of the weekend.

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Honestly, I don’t think that’s possible.

In the same boat and agree with the outsourcing help wherever you can but I also went to a reduced schedule. I tried full time, and for me, it was unsustainable.

I was a single parent of 1 in Biglaw. I had a nanny, who made everything possible. I was also in a group that was very open to remote work prior to Covid, so no commute 2 days a week really helped. I had a hard deadline on my days in the office to leave but everyone knew I'd log into our system after my kid went to bed. It's doable, if the people you work with are reasonably flexible and you are willing to set boundaries.

If your ex gets part custody (can't tell if that's possible from your post) it will be loads easier, since you'll have dedicated no-kid time. Best of luck!

Set up a schedule as much as possible (Daycare drop off/nanny arrives 8-5, 5-7:30 time with the kids, 7:30-10 log back in. Have groceries delivered/hire a cleaning lady/lawn services. Have backup care for school closures/sickness.

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