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Any success stories in persecuting an abusive ex? Family member has been punched, windshield has been smashed, and he leaves threatening voice mails. We have a PPO against him. He violated PPO

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Assume you mean prosecuting, not persecuting.

It varies between jurisdictions. I worked with a women’s abuse advocacy group, and they referred me to a lawyer. The lawyer basically wrote my ex a letter saying knock it the fuck off or we’ll take action, and she followed up with a phone call. She told me he sounded scared and it all stopped after that.

In your case, can’t say what worked for me will work for you, but engage all relevant supports (police, abuse advocacy group, lawyer) and document everything. It also sounds as though this person’s behaviour is escalating, and that’s what I’d impress upon the police and my lawyer, in your shoes.

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Document everything and just turn in proof of violation of the PPO. He’ll be in and that’s that.

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We were able to file a telephone harassment charge on my ex. He actually left a threatening voicemail for me. That stuck more than any other charge. A felony that will not come off his record. I am writing my Lifetime story

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Yes you folks are giving me hope. I really wanna see him locked up

No advice to give in this situation OP but I’m so sorry you’re going through this! I’m extremely happy for you that you’re out of that relationship though. Best of luck with everything and virtual hugs <3

I called the police every time he violated. Eventually he ended up locked up. It makes me sad to mention this, but I also got a gun and learned how to use it just in case I ever needed to.

PS the proof he violated it which actually got him into trouble was emailing me porn as the officer was taking a report from him stopping by my house and harassing me earlier in the day. Seeing it real time and in writing may have helped.

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