{ "media_type": "text", "post_content": "Any tips for how to leave work at work? I have anxiety and I’ve found that since my work is never actually finished at the end of the day (looming deadlines for every work product) that I just constantly feel like I have the weight of the upcoming work on my shoulders. Are there tech type jobs where the work is actually done at the end of the day and you start fresh the next day?", "post_id": "61d6f06266541e0026b2dd17", "reply_count": 23, "vote_count": 9, "bowl_id": "55375ce690f5eebe1d2a0f88", "bowl_name": "Tech", "feed_type": "crowd" }

Any tips for how to leave work at work? I have anxiety and I’ve found that since my work is never actually finished at the end of the day (looming deadlines for every work product) that I just constantly feel like I have the weight of the upcoming work on my shoulders. Are there tech type jobs where the work is actually done at the end of the day and you start fresh the next day?

like
Posting as :
works at
You are currently posting as works at

I think there’s always going to be more to do. I’ve been in your shoes, but what’s important is to set boundaries. If you’ve had trouble doing so in the past, tell your team “I will be unavailable past X time.” That way you have accountability..remember, there will always be “fires” to put out at work but you can’t do that if your mental health is struggling. Now is an especially good time to set boundaries because people are understanding with covid situation etc.

likehelpful

I can totally relate to this and often find myself envious of friends and family members who can "clock out" at the end of each day. Unfortunately, it's the nature of the beast with a lot of our jobs. The best we can do is try to focus on ways to manage that anxiety. For me, this involves making a point to NOT check work email/messages when I'm supposed to be enjoying down time. It's a constant battle, though. I totally get it.

likesmarthelpful

I’m really good with stopping work at the same time every day and not checking my email or answering work calls after that time but I just find myself thinking about work tasks so much. Sometimes I will solve work problems I’ve been trying to figure out in my dreams. It’s just gotten so bad. I’m feeling the burnout really bad and am just exhausted.

like

Set aside 30min at the end of each day to find closure in what you did for the day, and plan for what you'll accomplish the next day. It won't be perfect, but I find that if I do this, I can really leave work at work and think about it as "done" at the end of each day. Bonus: set aside another 30min at the beginning of your day each day (or week if that's easier) to set your intentions/goals for the day/week. Setting boundaries is important, but setting better expectations for yourself and planning ahead works a lot better for me personally.

likehelpful

I can relate to all of this. I’ve found meditations before bed help clear my thoughts. I also saw improvement when I’ve taken on a hobby or focus on another activity. This got my mind off of work and I’m more focused on my hobby during my down time. Exercising also helped with my burnout.

like

Try setting reasonable goals for the day. I find that boundaries are important to set for myself. I also like to hit the gym after work. Resets me. And for my overactive mind at night, CBD. Some like meditation…yoga…journaling. Find something that helps you decompress.

like

This used to be me. I'm technically on call once my workday is over, so I set some boundaries with my manager and he relayed them to my team. All calls must leave a voice-mail explaining the issue. We agreed if there's no voice-mail, I'm not required to respond. I trained team members on each shift on simpler fixes. As for solving problems, I take notes or audio record to review when I'm back at work. Then, usually I can pick up where I left off. If necessary, I'd take 2-6 hours outside of work to catch up or get ahead to not feel overwhelmed. It's about setting boundaries for personal sanity and making them known to your managers/ teams. People won't respect them if they don't know they exist.

like

I did the same thing when I was in my 20s . I think having hobbies, to do lists at home and kids helped. Once I log off unless I am called or texted I don't go back. I don't have work email on my phone.

likehelpful

+1 for this, I did something similar. I also used to journal at night, just very quickly or at some point in the evening and just 'unload' my work thoughts, and it helped me start to see things a bit clearly

Become a project manager. Now the actual work is someone else's business.

like

I dont want to work with a manager with this mentality haha

You just have to come to terms with the fact that it's just a job, not your life

smart

For me, listing todos for the next day kind of helps. The todo itself doesn't have to be complete or anything, just a tool to help you sort out the task that will be continued later or some time when the workload is lesser. It's like an assurance that I can always pick it up later and won't accidentally forget about it. Because of it, I can permit myself to forget about work for a while.

like

I was doing this for the first 6 months at the job and realized my quality of life just sucked. I was miserable. Started turning my computer off at 5pm every day and the first month or so I was so anxious but then that started to fade. Got used to picking up work the next day feeling refreshed and just let things happen. There are definitely times where something has a tight deadline and I give it a little extra time in the week but unless the issue is production or urgent I try to remember that I work to live not live to work!

like

This is it right here. Grateful that one of my company’s values is “enjoy your work to enjoy your life”. Work/life balance is actually a category on our reviews. A very big contrast to where I used to work.

Let me know when you find out haha

You have to learn estimation and accept you and your manager the real estimation , not every task can be accomplished by EOD. If you have manager who always ask you if you can fish this task before you leave then you need to have conversation with him/her , this is violation of your right to work limited times of hours daily

I feel you... I used to work 60-70 hour weeks at a low salary job because I did not know how mentally to turn it off (plus I enjoyed it and didn't have kids). Since then (it has been about 8 years), I have gone though many different stages. I have learned many things, stuff that works and some that don't. I have also been a part of a variety of work environments that will impact how to manage your anxiety... If you ever wanted to connect and talk, I would love to hear your experiences and learnings. I have been able to manage my anxiety, but comes with some cons... DM me if you would be interested in connecting.

Increase your estimations by 2x. In your estimations include breaks and potentially unforseen things like meetings. When I try and do short estimations on my time management is when the anxiety and stress kick in.

Turn everything off. Put the phone on Airplane mode. Make sure colleagues know you are offline. STRONG BOUNDARIES

Don't you have schedules for what you can actually finish in 8 hours?

I feel you. One day at a time. Rushing isn't going to help with your anxiety and the quality of your work. Routines help me alot to measure what can be done and what is enough for the day. Obviously knowledge of your work and the skills you bring in helps alot too. So keep calm and keep learning. Just breathe, work is just work.

Additional Posts

A client developer group just told me they reached terms to “buy equity in a lease.” From what they’ve told me, if we were setting this up fresh, I’d do a new LLC and easily handle capital contributions, buy-sell, etc. in the new LLC agreement. However, here the partner had a long-term lease on the underlying RE that our group wants to develop as a concept. Lease assignment to new LLC is dicey, but I’m thinking maybe we set up a Mgmt services company to contract w/ the partner-tenant entity?

like

Anyone know which agency sponsors employment based green card? My currency company won’t sponsor until my h1b expires in 2-3 years, so i’m curious to see how other companies handle.

I know this isn’t a marriage therapy bowl, but my husband has a really terrible tendency of saying things like “you’re being really mean” and completely shutting down during a disagreement when i objectively am not being mean, just truthful or vocal about how i feel about something. It’s a really convenient argument for him because it enables him to either be the victim and me the villian, or forces me to concede my stance and not reach a true resolution. Any tips on dealing with the irrational?

like

What would be the better choice and why?? JPMorgan Chase 23 LPA Fixed in Mumbai with annual bonus 10% - 12% KPMG India 22.5 LPA fixed in Pune with annual bonus 20% - 40 % TIA.

like

Wife and I are expecting - she currently has her own insurance through her current employer. She is planning to quit soon to be a SAHM to our first born and the one on the way. I’m on the EY HDHP with our oldest - will likely switch to a higher level of coverage when my wife quits and joins my plan (qualifying life event). Any chance she’ll be denied coverage for the pregnancy / birth by EY?

like

The same ambulance has been passing by every 30 minutes. It may as well be a Bus Route. 😥

like

Anyone else have lunch today and then slip back under the covers to go on your phone for hours? Merry Christmas!

likeuplifting

How much does AWS Cloud support engineers make?

like

I spent 3 hours writing a nonbillable BD article on a Friday. How does one artfully get out of doing these? 🫣

like

Men get more feedback than women. Thought I’d share what I just heard on a podcast with Sallie Krawcheck. And we should actively seek feedback because it’s not given to us as much.

like

Can I reach I directly to the hiring manager about a role With their team? I found a role I am really excited about. I have managed to secure a general referral but from previous experience I know that’s not always a guarantee. The HM posted the role on his LinkedIn two weeks ago and I am interested. Is this uncouth and will this result in me being blacklisted ?

like

So ladies and gents.... anyone got any good office romance (hoeing) stories? 😏

like

I just realized it’s been over a month since I wore a bra that wasn’t a sports bra... anybody else?

like

Will taking a job as a contracts manager at Amazon tank my career? Looking to leave my small firm (~4 attorneys) after one year of practice as an attorney because of limited opportunities for growth, difficult management, and general dissatisfaction working in a law firm. I have a good deal of friends and contacts at working at Amazon, including one senior corporate counsel, but I don’t feel I’m ready or could even get a corporate counsel position given my experience. Ty!

like

Thoughts on this gucci top handle? I’m this close to pulling the trigger

Post Photo
like

Saw this cute girl in the office for first time. But I am really afraid to approach her. Should I do it or not? Any tips.

likehelpful
like

Wanted to understand what happens in FAANG companies if H-1b visa runs out and there is no I-140 in place to extend visa beyond 6 years. Do they transfer the employee to a non-US office E.g. Canada? Does anyone here been through this scenario?

like

I live in US. Parents in small town in india. Visiting home during Christmas. What are some things you would recommend taking for them? I have 1 empty checking bag.

like

What's a mid- senior level analyst pay scale let's say in SF.

like

New to Fishbowl?

Download the Fishbowl app to
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
Download Fishbowl to see what others are saying
That was just a preview…
Sign Up to see all discussions
  • Discover what it’s like to work at companies from real professionals
  • Get candid advice from people in your field in a safe space
  • Chat and network with other professionals in your field
Sign up in seconds to unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.

Already a user?
Login here

Share

Embed this post

Copy and paste embed code on your site

Preview

Download the Fishbowl app

Get realtime notifications and see
what's happening in your industry
from the palm of your hand.

For account settings, visit Fishbowl on Desktop Browser or

General

Legal