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Any tips on dealing with dysfunctional relationship with mother? Every interaction with my mom is an attempt for her to attack me for something.

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I can’t call her out for anything because she never listens and thinks her way is the highway. This morning she yelled at me for keeping the pantry door open when it was already open. I told her I didn’t know she wanted it closed since it was already open. And then she comments “you don’t know shit”.

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Distance yourself. That’s what my therapist told me.

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I do distance myself and spend most my time in my room. So I interact with her very infrequently already - but even in those infrequent interactions she tries to make a jab at me. Like commenting on which purse I’m wearing because I’ll get robbed etc.

It sounds like you live with her so when you do move out it’ll be a lot better

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OP have you sat her down and told how you feel and how you want her to listen out first before firing at you? I am sure you would have. This is what I did growing up as a teenager ,my mom definitely wished the best even when she scolded me but I felt talking it made things subtle down. I am best Frens with my mom.

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Yeah moving out and getting space is the best option it seems. That way you can get space and she might pick up on how little you interact with her, which you can then say is because of the way she treats you.

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family therapy. my mom is a clinical narcissist and I moved out at 19 lol

^agreed. Best of luck OP❤️

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