Any tips on tackling general loss of motivation towards things? I love starting my day with a workout, eating well, meal prepping and trying my best at work but I can usually only do this for 3-4 months and then I fall back into a rut of not feeling motivated to do anything. I then fall off for a month’s time before I can get myself out there again. Anyone resonate with this?

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Are you taking PTO? This resonates with me but vacation is also how I reset/keep it at bay

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I guess I haven’t had too many actual vacations for a while. I’m in the process of applying to school + recruiting elsewhere so have spent most of my time off in prep (I know this doesn’t sound very healthy). One for me to consider!

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Could you possibly have high functioning depression? This sounds just like me when I was at my lowest. Super productive, 99% effective utilization rate at work, but would go through bouts of high stress, lack of motivation, and dissatisfaction with everything. Been in therapy for 3 years to manage it.

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Will consider looking into therapy (I’ve just moved cities so still researching therapists that would be a good fit). Out of curiosity, What works for you?

Genuine question: upon reflection, do you feel your expectations of yourself are realistic?

I’ve had this exact experience for decades (and am still dealing with it even now), and it’s because I didn’t realize that I was setting myself up to do 150% every day. The way I grew up, perfection wasn’t an ideal but just expected - so I was always experiencing cycles of burnout and self-flagellation.

It was only when I sought help for my chronic depression that I was diagnosed with ADHD - I’ve had it my whole life but I didn’t even know!

Not that ADHD is the answer here necessarily, but moreso it’s the validation I received from the diagnosis: it wasn’t just in my head that a lot of executive functioning tasks take me way longer than my peers.

Now I’m trying to practice radical acceptance about my true bandwidth, taking into account the toll task switching takes on me. I know that X is going to take me way longer that I think it “should” - how do I plan and structure around that understanding instead of just feeling guilty that I can’t do it all?

I’ve wasted a lot of time trying to “fix” myself and do things the “right” way. Now instead, I’m trying to just accept that I will have unpredictable down periods - the best I can do is plan ahead. When I have the energy, I spend time prepping by stocking up on easy to reheat meals, automating my inboxes and to-do lists, and setting up coping methods for when I’ll need them.

All of this to say that you’re doing your best - keep trying!!!! It’s so hard out here but you’re making progress, even if sometimes it’s 2 steps forward and 2 step back.

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Definitly will reach out! I’ve been trying to blurt out “I think I’m going to try therapy” to my mom in a causal convo. I’ve done it before but haven’t told family…think I’m ready to be more open to it now. Will DM you - thank you for being willing to chat!! ❤️

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