Any tips to compartmentalize anxiety triggers or put them in perspective such that they seem smaller?

I started a job in May of this year. I’m in need of a major surgery that will take me out of work for 2-4 weeks. Every week I wait the pain and situation gets worse, however I’m not comfortable taking time off when I just getting started. My question: how many months should I work before request off? What do you think is appropriate? I was hoping to get to the 6 month mark but I’d love to hear what you have to say.

My partner is a lawyer with ADHD, diagnosed as an adult, and about eight years into our 11 year relationship. We're working on him articulating how his brain works, and I want understand his experience as best I can.

What's the one thing you wished your (non-ADHD) spouse/partner understood about living with ADHD?

🐠 fam - looking for recommendations for men’s cross trainers with good ankle support. Any brands or models you particularly like?

Anyone has chronicle migraines? How do you deal with it with overtimes and work pressures?

Dang I got sick during this crucial time. Took today off and slept all day; but doesn’t feel like it’s helping. 😑 just needed to vent.

Any good primary care docs in Shaw and or NW DC? Thank you in advance. Not looking at OneMedical.

Can’t decide between buying an indoor cycling bike or the new apple watch (have the apple watch v2 and the functionality is still pretty good) with my lifestyle rewards! Any suggestions?

Lower back pain! First time experiencing it yesterday after a long time sitting, and I still feel it today 😖 Can't sit / work. How do YOU prevent this?

I feel like the fertility process is pulling my hubs and I apart. We’re both not great at communication, but I feel like this stressful process just is not bringing us together at all. I can’t vocalize what I need (because I don’t actually know what I need) and hubs is stressed and I feel like he’s drinking more and just not talking about his feelings. Anyone else navigating this? I don’t even know how to broach this topic. I am all about therapy, has anyone benefitted from couples therapy?

The bar to be an “alcoholic” by definition is pretty low... so realistically, how much drinking would you all consider concerning? I am a little nervous the quarantine is giving me an issue....

Positivity: if you are under 24 yo then you are more likely to be struck by lightning than die of Coronavirus

My eyesight is getting worse and it’s lowkey stressing me out lol. On that note, do you know what the cheapest way to get contact lenses is?!

How is your relationship with resident physicians?

Daycare recommendations in 78750 neighborhood?

Hi Cognians, I'm new to cognizant

I had multiple tests like blood, hormone and PCOD test near by hometown...is it possible to claim for them? If yes, how can I proceed.

Too bad coronavirus targets older people, instead of stupid people.

Anybody else consider credit cards and cash to be dirty at this point? All those asymptomatic people walking around touching their faces and putting their hands in purses and wallets.

People are really afraid of going to the ER, which is great for decreasing overuse, but is also concerning if really sick people are staying home and not getting the care they need.

Hi folks, need your help! Just found out that we’re pregnant (we were not actively trying so kinda surprised 🙈). What brand prenatal vitamins would you recommend? I’m seeing mixed suggestions on Folic vs. Folate - which one is important?

Please guide me and let me know if there is anything else I need to do at this moment. I’ve contacted my OB as well. I’m so worried. Thanks!

Is Jomashop a decent website to purchase a luxury watch? I see 30%+ discounts offered on new Breitlings and was not sure how authentic they are. Thanks

New to investing, have 90k in savings. Should I do lump sum or DCA based on current climate? (I'm 23 and plan to do 60% VTSAX 40% VFWAX)

Did anyone else get left in limbo by guidehouse after an interview. Interviewed with them in August and checked back with recruiter and she said they were still waiting to hear back from the team.

Is it good to join in hitachi for java 6 years senior product engineer?

Anyone in fraud & claims? Charlotte?

Anyone at the McKinsey Berlin Office? How is the culture like? Will I need to be fluent in German to join?

Southern girl needs advice: how do y'all ladies dress in NYC during the winter?

Against all the "open floor plan" odds, I got my own office. Anybody have decor recs? For post-covid19

I am looking for a new job. I have a degree in ornamental horticulture with a minor in business administration. My intention with my degree was to start my own business. I soon realized this was not in my cards. Through life experiences I eventually landed a position as a loan officer and credit analyst. I love this career. I have been here for 7 years but due to management changes and a buyout, I am keeping my options open. I feel most employers can't get past my degree. Any suggestions??

Hi guys,

I got an offer from Deloitte for the Salesforce developer role. Can someone share about the work life balance and job security in Deloitte.

Hi fishes,

This annual appraisal I have got a good % of appraisal increment on my salary but I was not promoted to a senior developer (although I have been mentoring a junior dev in my team and been part of building the project by implementing new technologies and tweaks) and my total YoE is 3.5+ years. What could be the reasons? What should I do now?

Thanks in advance!!

thoughts on VeeFriends NFT? stable? going up?

I have two questions. I have 10 years of experience in multiple sectors and I have been trying to gain a leadership position. I am attempting my PHR this summer but what are some tips in order for me to obtain a leadership position? Also, how long does it take to obtain another position out of state? I am trying to move to Houston but I don’t want to move until I am confident I can obtain a position in the city before packing up and leaving.

Any fish from LEK London willing to refer? Currently interviewing with other top consulting firms in London and keen to pursue LEK
YOE: 6
Appreciate the help!

Is SC at EY the same as SC at D? If so, anyone willing to give referrals?

Dear Fish Bowlers!

I need help!

I have an offer from a company where my salary is 30% higher than my current place, and the benefits are great. I'm pretty happy with the overall package , only negative is my 4 weeks vacation will turn into 3. They've already said no to matching my 4 weeks.

I will sign with the company but I wanted some advice on how to negotiate -- if needed at all. Or maybe ideas on what else can be negotiated? They did mention the possibility of stock options later.

How do you guys deal with the politics of consulting? I have bad anxiety as it is, but it’s really wearing on me. I feel singled out in a lot of cases by colleagues who don’t have much tact (contd)

Going through severe health anxiety right now. I wore expired contacts and my head hurts and it hurts even more cuz I keep thinking about it thinking it’s an aneurysm. My toes and fingers are so sweat

🐠 who take / taken prozoac. Just got prescribed for depression. What has your experience been so far?

I really struggle with sharing any personal hardships with anyone, including my wife. Anyone else the same way? Why is it so hard to open up?

I have very low self esteem and just find it hard it hard to believe in myself. Any advice on getting over this? It has become really tiring for me to always seek for reassurance from the people close to me or the people I work with. Like I don't ever feel that I am good enough.

Which antidepressants other than Wellbutrin have zero negative impact on sexual performance? All SSRIs seem to suck in this area.

Friends - facing weird neurological and anxiety symptoms, but remains a mystery what it is. Wondering if this is an anxiety disorder or stress hyper stimulation or vestibular issue. Hoping to hear about your symptoms with anxiety disorders or if you have symptoms similar to mine. My symptoms: tinnitus in ears, jittery sensation in morning, light dizziness, slight balance issue, tension headache, slight numbness / diffused sensation in left toes/ left fingers, occasional pain in left knee. Ty

I want to know if anyone else feels like I do: I’ve been on 3 projects (1.5 years) and don’t feel “liked” or valued. I try to authentically connect with others and do my best work on every project team, but nothing seems to work. Even more frustrating are consistently subpar performance reviews, which make me doubt myself and my intelligence/worth. I feel absolutely useless here and can’t operate from a deficit. It’s like I’m like a fish trying to be a bird. Please help, what should I do?

I’ve suffered from workaholism for a long time. Thanks to a lot of great self help books and therapy, I’m no longer putting work on a pedestal and I’m spending a lot more time on self care and my marriage. But, unfortunately, I am now getting withdrawals, because my body is used to the daily adrenaline of throwing myself into work. It’s this terrible feeling of like anguish/unease in my gut, but I don’t have anything I’m worried about- it’s like my body wants to find something to worry about.

Has anyone been able to get prescribed anti-depressants during COVID? I’m struggling so much right but not sure how this will work out with telemedicine, etc. I don’t have a primary therapist.

Recently experimented with adding meds the past month (feel horrible still) and this weekend my friend group dumped me after I blacked out and did something horrible. I don’t know how to help myself and I’m starting to spiral

How to get someone with bipolar and/or insomnia to sleep? Pleaaaaasse help

So I adopted a cat during quarantine. Although I love him, having him seems to have worsened my anxiety. I would never give him away but the responsibility has been giving me severe anxiety. Even though I had thought long and hard about getting him. I think coupled with the fact I started a new job a month ago, I’m feeling a bit overwhelmed. I’m starting medication this week and hoping it will help me. But right now, I am so stressed out and anxious :/ any tips? Or words of encouragement?

Worked super hard in the US for 11 years, finally was about to get green card, I got laid off. What has my life become? I can’t feel more like a failure. If I can’t find a job that sponsors work visa for me in 3 months, the past decade would be the proof of my yet another horrible investment. Damn, universe, what are you trying to teach me?! Stop chasing unrealistic goal that’s outside of our control?

Recently was ghosted out of nowhere by someone I really liked. Completely threw me off my game (I’m usually a very confident person). Still waking up with anxiety about it. Doing better now but still can’t help but think of what went wrong and why I wasn’t good enough

Ever feel the loneliest when you’re in a room full of people/hanging with a group?

So, my timing isn't what it used to be. I left the firm in January after I had a real talk with myself and admitted that this was not what I wanted to do and was not at all good for my mental health.