Any white males on here dating Asian females, specifically Chinese? I’m a white male with a Chinese girlfriend and I’m a bit worried about meeting the parents (they are in China; we are in Australia). They’ve said to my girlfriend that they’d prefer her to date Chinese so they are able to communicate with her boyfriend, but other than that it seems ok. Does anyone have experience in this situation? How did it turn out?

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My brother (Chinese American) has been dating his girlfriend (white American) for the past few years.

Before they met his girlfriend, my parents might have preferred that he date someone Chinese. That way, they’d be less self-conscious about the cultural differences and language barriers. After seeing how much she cares for my brother and the effort she makes to connect (e.g., joining the occasional family FaceTime, learning how to cook 1-2 dishes from my mom), they absolutely adore her.

At the end of the day, parents just want their kids to be loved and accepted for who they are, and they hope that love and acceptance will be extended to their families (aka themselves). In this case, find ways to show them that you love their daughter and that you want to be welcomed into the family.

Ultimately, it’s also on your girlfriend to share with her parents why YOU matter to HER. As long as you are trying your best, she should be a vocal advocate for the relationship.

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Very tactically - if this meeting is in-person, I’d discuss with your gf what PDA is off limits, maybe bring a small gift (usually some consumable), and stay engaged when interacting with everyone even if you can’t understand the language

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Honestly it all depends on your gf. If she is committed to the relationship she will explain that you're a great guy and the person she wants to be with to her parents.

Im a F, south Asian. Not chinese but I have had quite a lot of exposure to cultural situations such as this

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I’d look as a positive if you are unable to communicate with your in-laws 😜

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Ask ur gf to teach you a few basic phrases in Chinese and you’ll be good man. Show that you care and can take care of their daughter through your actions.

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Start learning basic Chinese from your girlfriend at the very least. It would show both her and her family that you care. Also consider taking classes. I imagine the parents also want to be able to speak to their grandkids (if you plan on having children). So learning Chinese yourself will ensure that your kids will also be exposed more to the language.

My girlfriend is Lebanese and even though her family speaks decent English. It’s important to me that I show them that I care enough to be able to communicate to them in Arabic.

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