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Anybody have a partner (female) who regularly comments on their appearance? She likes me and my work, but she always asks if I’m feeling ok because she says I look tired, depressed, sick, etc (cont.)

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I get that from the men, not the women. I usually respond, "this is just my face."

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I stopped wearing makeup everyday two years ago. It was a slow transition, but now I can’t believe I use to do that every day. I use to happen a lot, but I have a great hubs, and anytime someone said the “are you sick?” Genre of comment; I just said “I’m not wearing makeup” and I haven’t gotten comments like that for over a year now. So, the “nope, this is how I look” responses worked after a while 🤷🏻‍♀️

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I’m in the middle of doing this! Recently at a settlement conference I wore just foundation. Nothing hiding my tired bags. The judge asked why I “looked so tense” and I said “this is just how I look your honor. “ lol

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Don't worry about it. You're probably pretty without makeup. Women who say this to other women know how it makes the other feel - she's trying to put you down. Wear what makes you feel your best. For me, it's just a little bit of "better than sex" mascara and a high-quality concealer under the eyes. Never noticed how much of a difference it makes..and my skin can still breathe!

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Ya I can see how that’s annoying. Maybe she’s genuinely looking out, but she can simply ask you how you’re doing.

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I’ve definitely gotten those comments too the few days when I don’t wear makeup! It’s always “are you sick!?” These comments happen regardless of if I have makeup on, but I wonder if there’s any correlation to how much I wear (just eyeliner and mascara vs. foundation and blush). That could be it. I don’t always do foundation, so if she’s really looking at my face, maybe she’s noticing that.

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I just switched to mascara only with the occasional lip and I get the tired comment all the time.

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Yep, to echo the above - I get more of these comments when I don’t wear makeup and I just say, “I’m not wearing makeup today.” People don’t realize how different that can make you look even when everything is 1000% fine.

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It’s not the end of the world, but it’s annoying and kills any confidence that I happened to have that day. It happens whether I’m dressed casually or in a suit, so my wardrobe isn’t the issue.

It could be that - I also dress nothing like this partner. She’s always very put together, and I’ve never seen her in flats or anything not perfectly tailored and form fitting. Maybe it’s because I overall don’t dress like her, even when I wear a suit or jacket. That’s a good thought!

I’d joke like “you’re killing my vibe Mary” and try to let her know that it’s inappropriate. She might be nervous about how you’re doing and assessing whether you’re overworked etc and may not realize it’s coming off improper.

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