Anybody have a partner struggling with mental health issues? How do you manage? My wife has been diagnosed with mental health issues in the past, before I knew her. In the years that’s I’ve known her, 5+, they haven’t been significant up until more recently. I’m doing my best to support her, but sometimes I become a punching bag and it can be really hard to keep my cool. I’m in therapy, and she has also agreed to start therapy after having had some bad experiences with therapists in the past.

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Have you spoken to her about this recent uptick?

Yes she’s aware, and has many tools to help herself manage it, and is actively doing so. But it’s really hard, and she knows she’s making me the punching bag, but it’s the best she can do right now.

In a similar situation right now with my spouse and had an exceptionally bad weekend with a relatively poor past 6 months.

I try my hardest in the moment to remind myself that I am not the problem and that it is her mental health, which I also try to detach from her as well.

I hear you. I guess it’s just scary, having never seen something like this before and watching someone you love go through it. Trying to take care of them, especially when they’re easily irritated at you, and trying to juggle a demanding job on top of that is so stressful. I want to open up to others about this but I don’t think she wants people to know this about her so I have to respect her wishes.

I’m in a 7 year relationship and I’ve often made my girlfriend my punching bag or scapegoat for anxieties and stresses of mine. From my experience, I didn’t like her trying to peel back layers of the emotional onion before I had really addressed them in therapy. It’s difficult to come clean about insecurities and fears to people who you don’t want to think less of you until you’ve come clean to someone else. Maybe she doesn’t want to admit her actual fears and is resistant to your help because she hasn’t come to terms with herself or come clean to someone else first.

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