Anybody have experience with realizing that they way underestimated themselves in terms of what jobs they could get. Just wondering if this happened to anybody else

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Yes- was in a toxic environment for several years and was gaslit into thinking that was as good as it gets and that I wasn’t qualified for better jobs. Finally took a leap and quit and have doubled my salary in two years and am way happier at work.

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In my first job my boss constantly told me that she had a son my age and talked me down whenever I tried to give her advice she yelled at me frequently for no reason just to berate me and put me in my place. It's not a contest but at least you can kind of construe the answers on the survey as mandatory rather than people wanting to hurt you

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I was underestimated by other ppl because I have a lot of children. Ppl constantly pushed government jobs on me when they found out I had kids (by suggestion and their assumptions). The mommy tax is real and really ugly and it’s so ignorant. The best part is these people thought they were doing me a favor by protecting me from something —- failing to acknowledge I’m the primary earner. Stand out of my way!

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I had clinical depression which was untreated for a while and I literally couldn't understand why anybody would want to hire me or why anybody would want to love me because I felt utterly worthless despite managing to accomplish things in the face of my depression. Now I'm struggling with my career and wondering if I really do suck or maybe just my perception is off LOL

Maybe. I was offered 2 jobs doing immigration law (which is what I WANTED to do), held out for a 3rd immigration law firm to give me an answer after an interview, but ended up getting a good offer with an ID firm so I took that (out of the 4 jobs it paid the most). I do wish I’d gone into immigration tho bc it’s why I went to law school.

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You’re going to be fine. You can learn a new area. I switched to an area that I absolutely hated and two years in when I finally started to feel like I understood the practice area the tide started to change. I’ve been in this area for about nine years and love it. I teach CLEs on it nationally now and then because I love it so much.

You can always pivot again if you end up hating it.

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