Anyone considering not returning to work after giving birth?

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The best advice I was given was to stick with working in the early years as it gets harder (not easier) as your kids grow up. I hope I can encourage some of you to do the same. I now have teens and this advice has proven true— it’s easier to find childcare for a young child than for a teen and the issues with teens often hinge on values/judgement in a way that isn’t true of young children. I went back after my first mat leave feeling kind of torn. And there were days it was a $hit$how but I loved the adult intellectual discussion and the feeling of pride in my work that staying home didn’t provide in the same way. I have many peers who stepped off the track immediately when kids arrived and have had a hard time getting a job after 10+ years out. I don’t want to tell anyone to “lean in” as that was not my favorite book. But, I hope to encourage you to try it and stick it out for awhile. You might surprise yourself, as I did.

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I wish I could work 3-4 days a week... and still make the same salary. Lol. We do have part time options, but I’m not convinced they actually work and are worth the pay cut

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I considered it, but being a SAHM is hard AF. I like having someplace else to go and professionals watching my kids (not to say I done daydream of being home sometimes)

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+1 for this ^ and also we need/want two incomes. My ideal would be work 3 days per week, maybe some day...

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I just gave my notice and am giving it a go - I had scaled back to 50% and want the flexibility to be able to do whatever/whenever with my kiddos - will let you know how it goes!

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When I came back from leave I worked with my team - I started doing more internal work...checkout tours of duty - they are great for getting remote opportunities and you meet people willing to have you work part time for them

Nope. Now my kid is a toddler and honestly, going to work is super relaxing and energizing. Maybe I am a bad mom but if I had to stay at home all day I think I’d hate life

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On maternity leave right now, and am seriously considering this. I know millions of people do it everyday, but I can't imagine leaving my little girl at home and focusing on inane slides all day long.

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I’m on maternity leave right now and I don’t think I could do the SAHM thing. It’s very rewarding but also very tough and lonely!

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I thought about it briefly, but a month into my first maternity leave, I was ready to get back. Decision made. 🤷🏻‍♀️

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On mat leave right now and now I know I’m not cut out to be a SAHM. The main difference for me going back will be not wanting to travel and trying to cut back substantially on that aspect of my old work life.

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Not currently expecting but this is my plan eventually, I hope.

I agree with working part time! I think I’d like that. Or a 9-5 job. But not this travel and insane hours!! Care giving is something I am so passionate about and I really enjoy it! I think it’s all a matter of what makes you happy!

I went internal after my first baby and now have a senior internal role that I love that keeps me engaged but gives me less travel and more day to day flex that is key with little ones. I don’t really miss consulting work so while I could go back to client service (as some others at my firm have done) I am staying put in my current role for now. Everything is a trade off but I would advise you to look at all options as you finish mat leave and to try to stay in the working world for a while to see if it works. You can always step out later if not and be a SAHM.

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