Anyone else dread baby showers? I don’t want to go to my friends baby shower just because of the social aspect of it. Dreading the side conversations that I may have. I know it’s to focus in on my friends upcoming baby but I’d rather just do a 1:1 to catch up. What’s the best way to change your RSVP without lying and looking disrespectful?

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Be honest with her. Tell her you are having a hard time at the moment and that you would love to celebrate her one on one at a later time. If you already bought the gift, send it with another friend/delivery service. My friend was going through (failed) fertility treatment during our other friends baby shower and no one questioned anything. She just wasn’t there and had told the mother-to-be directly her reasons. She is now pregnant with her first after a long fertility journey. Women are (should be) more understanding than we think.

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Is she knows your fertility journey/struggle I would just be honest that it’s too hard so you’re going to skip, but you are so excited for her and would love to celebrate 1:1

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I would be honest with her. Personally, I enjoy 1 on 1 time more. My best friend was going through ivf when I was pregnant, and I had just gotten success through my own fertility treatment. I thanked her but forbade her from planning a shower (crazy girl offered) and told her she didn’t have to come. I think she came for 30 minutes to drop off a gift. We talk all the time and we both know we support each other in everything. Attendance at a shower was inconsequential.

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Are you having fertility issues or just don't feel like socializing?

No fertility problems froze my embryos and happily childfree but keeping my options opened as a 36F

But I recently didn’t get converted at my dream job that would allow for me to move into the possible next step of parenthood, so currently looking for my next gig before I start that challenge. Always feeling like 2 steps forward and 1 step back. My journey is still a work in progress.

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