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I bet you’re under 30.
Eventually all those people fade away. Then you’ll start feeling lonely. Then you’ll start the self-reflection phase of life where you relearn everything you thought you knew about yourself.
Then you’ll turn 40.
Thats the thing. I think I am the most serious about my career of all of my friends , for now at least
Look, there’s nothing wrong with your career and (presumably) professional relationships being a top priority for you. But you can’t expect others to be cool with being a non-priority either.
Thank you.
If you want to be part of a community you have to show up and contribute, which means attending events and parties. If you’re okay having your career and relationship be your whole life, then by all means keep doing what you’re doing.
I do show up to birthdays and big events . What I cannot do is make every club night or random event during multiple weekends in a month
Do whatever makes you happy but is it really working so much? Because these partners will not gaf if you are ever in the hospital but your family might so choose wisely.
Chief
I’m 29 and my wife and I just had twins. Career and family are my top priorities. I know what you mean to an extent though because I’ve caught shade from my more insecure friends who haven’t accomplished the same things I have. I’ve decided to prioritizing the friends that actually want me and my family to do well, not those that pocket watch and are envious.
Agreed. I feel like I had a lot of friends growing up but the number is dwindling down to below 5. You begin to notice when accomplishments are ignored but people rush to your side when anything bad happens
If I’m ever successful I’ll come back and let you know.
Same
The older you get the more you focus on a few key friends and your family. It’s a natural thinning of your herd. And in my experience it makes those in your herd more meaningful and more likely to really show up for you when you need it. And then you don’t feel lonely while simultaneously being surrounded by lots of people and lots of activity. Because at some point if the party scene does not fade in your life that’s how you feel.
I'm not at all suggesting that you are so focused on your career that you're putting your health in danger but someone gave me this thought and it really helped me put things in perspective. If you were to drop dead tomorrow, your firm would replace you and move on within days or weeks, but the people in your "circle" would be feeling the loss of you for a long time. Also, you're under 30--you have a lot of years ahead of you and any success you have had up to this point could easily go up in smoke. Think about who would be there for you were that to happen.
I 100% whole heartedly agree. But a few years of focus can change your entire life. I try to be there for my friends but the amount of people I can truly show up for is decreasing because my free time has significantly decreased as well
If you don’t make time for the people in your life, it’s only natural that the relationship will grow cold. The people closest to you may be shunning you because you distanced yourself from them, not because of your success specifically. People will always be more important than your job. It’s wonderful that you love your career and are motivated. Just don’t forget loved ones. 😊
That’s scary
Ppl* wow, thanks autocorrect
do you
good point
Pole?