Anyone else feel like they don’t have much to talk about with their s/o these days? I’m ~3 yrs into relationship (we do not live together). Not sure if I should attribute it to our situation - already knowing lots about each other, covid making our lives more routine, & our daily texting already covering most updates real-time - or if this indicates a dying relationship/lack of compatibility. Would love to hear your situations/tips!! Just want to things to be more exciting again

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Nearly 11 years into my relationship I can confirm that it's normal for this to happen occasionally. People go through ebbs and flows of inspiration, engagement and interest with most people in their lives. Sometimes I have so much to tell my sister I could burst and then other times I just sit and stare at her awkwardly with nothing to say. This becomes even more pronounced with the person you live and/or regularly check in with. Sometimes what's going on in our lives simply isn't interesting.

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7 years in and can confirm as well

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this is normal. feeling comfortable with silence is a great thing. But you should consider moving in together given the length of your relationship imo.

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Thank you for this advice!! I appreciate you

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What are you doing to make it exciting?

And what do you want more of?

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2/3 of your relationship has been during a global pandemic. When things are semi back to normal, I have a feeling you guys will make it in the long run. See sentence one - that was the toughest test of your relationship!!

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That happens to me/our relationship once we neglect our hobbies/life outside of the relationship

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That’s a great point! I would like to develop more hobbies, I don’t have many besides more “common”/less involved ones like reading, listening to podcasts, etc. I think graduating college into covid has made it harder :/

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Is he still the person you want to tell first when something wonderful or terrible happens in your life? If so, then you’re probably doing fine…every couple goes through these ebbs and flows. If you find yourself turning to other people for conversations you used to reserve for your SO, that may be time to talk about ways to reconnect.

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Great point, never considered that. For the record, yes he is! Thanks for sharing this perspective!

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