Anyone else feel like they have little control over their lives? I take my dog for a walk, get pings and e-mails, get texts and calls at night, can’t use the bathroom without random Zoom calls, having dreams about work now

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You have complete control, but you have to say No, don't be a doormat, have some backbone, blah blah blah

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Yeah you’re right. I’m on a team led by workaholics who have had projects that go 80 hours a week

I used to be this way until I snapped and basically was hospitalized. No more of that. I set boundaries now and it's up to me to enforce it.
No one is going to give you that work life balance- you create it for yourself!

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OP no I did not. I just know my limit better now. Stay on top of your tasks and ask for help when you are overwhelmed. (I used to be scared of asking for help). If anything, it made me better at priotizing my tasks, able to utilize staff, and leverage my manager more effectively.

That’s how I was, then I switched to Federal consulting which probably saved my life.

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You have control over your life. You don’t have to work at Deloitte. You’ve chosen your career and company (probably for the pay and/or reputation) But it was YOUR CHOICE. And since you probably won’t leave then take agency over the things you’ll respond to and when. Start setting boundaries, control the unnecessary stimuli and change your perspective. If you continue to make excuses like it’s easier said than done, then you’ve already given up.. Manage your emotions and reevaluate your life’s wants and goals. Lastly, do you have hobbies or people to enjoy life with? Life is not all about work. Find some joy.

You gave up any control as soon as you got the dog. See my other posts on this topic. Still, to keep my wife of 32 years then, 37 now, I agreed to relinquish control to Kona.

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