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Anyone else get sick of the “perception” game? I feel like I’m judged more by what I look like I’m doing than I do by what I actually output

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As a strong SME with a SM title I’ve stopped caring about it. Even at this level, though, I regularly see examples of how it’s hurting me. I have a coworker who manages perception very well, and although my reputation as a SME is secured I can see him/her getting oppos that they frankly shouldn’t be a part of. Doesn’t matter, I leave early and work late from the hotel. The people who matter know my work, but I can see it limiting my future opportunities

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Devil’s advocate - this is a client service industry. Perception in all forms is more than a nice to have, since our effectiveness is both a function of insight and sell-in.

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SM1 I wish... would save a lot on dry cleaning

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I think it’s a scale. Do you simply look a bit different / dress different than most consultants? That’s fine IMO, particularly once you have developed a strong reputation. On the flip side, do you come to work every day looking like shit? Dirty and wrinkly clothes, unwashed hair, unkept in general? That’s more of an issue.

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I’m exhausted from this game but I take it as part of the job description for SM1’s devils advocate reason. Some days it still makes me want to quit though. And one day it will likely be the reason I do.

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Just curious though - what do you guys mean by “look different”? Is doesn’t seem too hard to me to put on nice business casual clothes or a suit. Does it go against your personal values? Struggling to understand.

Sitting in a different room isn’t a ‘perception’ issue - this is a contact industry and if you’re not part of the conversation, there may be aspects that you’re missing and don’t realize it

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