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No and I’m extremely thankful
BUT remember it’s your life and your will to do what is best for YOU
F them kids
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In your MJ voice. 😂
If you’re not ready, don’t do it. Once they are here, you can’t send them back
D1-That’s a choice. You can pump or use formula. That’s how we split mommy & daddy duty. Not for everybody, but to your point, don’t scare the people 😂😂😂
C3-We’re both 33 with our first (and to be frank, didn’t try before then). So, your GF should definitely get checkups and know if there is anything in her health history that may make it harder, but in a lot of cases y’all still have time. We weren’t ready at 31 either
Enthusiast
There is no sense in bringing any child into this world until you actually want to. It is not fair to you, and it is not fair to the child. Live the life that YOU want to live.
Conversation Starter
She hit it right on the nose. I broke so many generational curses and still are breaking them. Can I enjoy my accomplishments and reap the benefits before I have a child.
Just got married (29F) and my mom asked if we’re thinking about kids, then got mad that I told her I didn’t want to talk about it. Truth is we are planning to, but not for at least 3-5 more years. When it happens, she’ll be the first to know (other than my husband of course), but I don’t want her asking about it until then
Lol they are always going to ask bc that is their job! When our parents become Grandparents they get EXTRA weird lol and suddenly everything that you got your butt in trouble for as a kid is “okay bc (your kid) is learning /just a baby” 😳. It’s wild. But you’re never ready for kids and life changing they are but as a mom of 2 (one natural born and the other adopted) it’s life changing in all the good ways and I was never one of those women who felt like I was born to be a mother and that’s my contribution to society. I love to work, travel, love, and laugh but my kids are still whole. If you get what I mean. I think there is a common misconception that kids and marriage has to change you completely and while it’s true some parts of your perspective and motivations do change you can still be true to who you are and be a damn good parent. Pregnancy wasn’t bad but definitely strange things happened that they don’t tell you about and labor, delivery were not bad either. I have heard horror stories for sure but that’s not everyone’s portion. Life after birth is not always sleepless for that long you just have to figure out what your newborn needs and in what order (to be changed, fed, burped) and make them comfortable. Once you got that down you’ve got gold . Our daughter was sleeping through the night by 5weeks old. It’s just a process but absolutely beautiful to be a part of and experience.
Shouldn’t a spouse come first?
Purposefully being a single parent is a disservice to the child
Are you in a serious relationship to even consider having kids? Either way I agree with others, having kids is a huge change (sometimes shock) to your entire way of life. Don’t do it unless it’s something you absolutely want… you’re never actually ready but if you want it then you adapt better
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Jesus...your parents wildin’