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Anyone else grow up poor and feel like a prick when talking about your travel adventures with friends back home? I made it out and am one of 💰THEM💰now....not sure how I feel about myself.

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OP- I can relate. I think that Deloitte does a good job of recruiting racial diversity, but the social class diversity often astounds me. See if you can find others in your new universe who also come from humble means and get it. As for the friends at home, it could go either way, but over the years, I have found these people to be irreplaceable. Stick to the topics that they do know and the things that you did in the past. Know what they offer you in your life (for me it is often unconditional love, understanding of my family, etc) and appreciate your friendship for those things. Good for you for making it this far. I don't know you, but I am proud of you!

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OP I totally get it. I grew up an immigrant in the projects, and remember being embarrassed to see my mother with food stamps at the grocery. I remember growing up on the streets, and going to friends houses for a warm shower. I went to war, and in turn the military paid for the education my parents couldn't give me. 3 degrees later, and I've lost a lot of friends after starting my new career. I struggle with it every day to understand why. Why some people can't just be happy for us. I feel disconnected, and almost as if my presence reminds them of their compromises. Sorry to be long, but it's been weighing on me as well.

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Exactly the same boat. But it's more than just travel. I made it out and have entered a whole new world. I feel like an asshole trying to relate to those I left behind, and often feel like the new members of my world are assholes when I try to rate to them. It's a strange in-between that is often very emotionally confusing.

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Just don't be a prick about your travels. Surround yourself with people that have similar adventures and use your "making it out" status to give back to a community that could really use your sincere and unconditional help.

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Be grateful that you now have perspective. Everyone will appreciate your humble and down to earth attitude, which can really only be acquired through your upbringing. You're still you and you can float between social classes now with way more ease than the average bear. Also, don't forget to pick up the tab when you're at home. 🍻

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It's less guilt and more of a "holy shit life isn't anywhere close to fair" realization/confirmation. I failed out of high school and worked my ever loving ass off to make it through community college/engineering school....I haven't met a single person in consulting or otherwise coming from similar circumstances. The barrier to get in is too damn high

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You're at Deloitte. You must be fluent in douche 😏

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My parents came to US with $100 in their pocket. Worked at fast food, cleaned rooms and took on multiple jobs. My dad works as a electrician still. My mom works as cashier at Walmart. My wife is a partner. I am a Senior Manager. At times I do feel guilty about having money but my wife and I give back in unique ways - micro lending, donating or otherwise. You will/should create what works for you.

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Community school kid who was able to make it to take a 50% tuition scholarship in a reputed university after putting our family home on the line. I used to volunteer at religious centers to feed myself through college. In my community, a lot of people go through much worse than what even I bore. It makes me happy speaking to my neighbors and their kids trying to encourage them to work for better grades. Some people think we become a rich guy (even if iam strictly middle class) but you need not bother. Keep helping out who you can and it won't feel bad

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D5 exactly...my first time on an airplane was my trip to DU. I'd gotten somewhat used to upper middle class peeps in school but only went to a fancy 4 year university for two years, so didn't have THAT much time. I was so embarrassed during the "get to know you games" when I could only say "one" for the number of countries I'd been to, etc. I thought all of you dudes/dudettes were pompous assholes with your lacrosse and rowing and golf and sailing teams. Now I'm you, we're us, but I still feel alienated even though I know that's not the case within my social group at big D

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I've learned to rarely talk about what I do / see with my friends back home in small town America. It usually ends with me coming off as a dbag when I follow up with how they're doing (rarely well). All they see from me is the travel glam on my social media.. Doesn't help that most of them are married / have kids. Very different stages in life

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Seeing this thread makes me grateful to be where I am and that so many more have done well too (similar story for my upbringing). My biggest pet peeve on this app is people calling others on planes and such peasants. Joking or not, I don't find it humorous. Glad to see many people come from humble beginnings and remained humble in this line of work.

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Nope. Just give back. You've worked for it.

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P1- thank you for sharing your amazing story. I think that you have used the right word- "disconnected" is what OP and we are feeling and not so much guilty

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This has been the more uplifting / meaningful post on FB. Can't believe this level of depth is on an anonymous app.

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OP, just make sure that you never ever forget your roots. You'll look around and hear your peers complain about not making enough but they'll never understand what not having enough is really like. Always stay grounded and understand that your parents made the sacrifices for you to be where you are at. Kick ass and take names

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Growing up poor and growing up in small town America are different things. The latter usually has the means the travel but just choose to have three kids at 25 instead.

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Well, no life is not fair. But you did work for it....it was not handed to you which is way more impressive. try to think about the good you can do. I think if you join a few different groups you might find a few people with similar stories to your. You are probably a role model for someone else-you just might not know it.

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Gonna have to agree with A1. Life isnt fair but sometimes it can be. In your case it was fair because you are getting to enjoy the fruits of your hard work.

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I liked that AT1, thanks

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