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Therapists are there to validate you and help. Plus, one thing that helps me is that I’m sure they’ve heard worse. Also they’re usually empathetic people who want to be there and don’t judge and come from a place of unconditional positive regard. If you don’t feel they are, I would find a new therapist. Just try and have some tea or calm / chill before a session and try and be vulnerable. It’s so helpful that way when you just let it all out. They’re not there to judge ❤️
I would just tell your current therapist what you’re thinking! For example, I remember in the beginning with my therapist, I would always leave thinking she’d think I was crazy. After about 2 months, I just asked her if she thought I was crazy because I leave feeling judged. And she was so open to this - welcomed this question and directed the conversation to explore this feeling I had
If you find that even after bringing it up and your current therapist didn’t adequately help you clarify your own feelings, then maybe it is time to switch. But definitely try it out — otherwise you’ll probably encounter the same problem with other therapists
. A good therapist will recognize this and draw out the issues around self doubt and help address it. Thats what you’re paying her to do. Effective therapy is hard. But if you’re uncomfortable with that therapist and feel you can’t talk to her or you’re not making progress, a change is definitely warranted
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Before we jump to conclusions that the therapist is not good, let’s remember that therapy makes people uneasy and uncomfortable. Subconsciously we project our thoughts bc what we really want is comfort and validation. The best thing here is to address it directly with the therapist and ask for their style and methods of therapy and feedback
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Well therapists are highly educated, it would go against their entire professional training to jump to quick conclusions and label what people say as stupid/dumb…so no need to worry about that. But it sounds like you are seeking some type of validation or comfort, and it would help to level set expectations.
She is probably giving you space to speak and she is reflecting. Ask her if you are unclear at which point she would give you feedback, and/or help improve your thought process and triggers.