Anyone else have family members that just wont stay the fuck home? Its driving me nuts that they are out shopping for non essentials and ignoring my concerns.

I’m a 3rd year lit associate in BigLaw and fortunate to have earned substantive early experience—taking depos, arguing discovery motions, full ownership of briefing, case management while working closely with the partner on the strategy. I burned out and the pandemic reminded me it’s nice to see my husband. I’m considering a (nonBigLaw) transactional role. I’m nervous- of course I have transferable skills, but I’ve been living off my lit skills. Any advice or has anyone else felt this way?

Just want to share what I learned after trying to commit suicide for more than 100 times in 2 months.
Male, 26, single, family abroad.
1. Being happy does not need a reason. Happiness is discovered.

How many married professionals with young families are just sticking it out “for the kids”? Marriage is very dead and has been for a while. Young kids 4 and 1. My wife and I don’t fight, but share 0 interests outside of the kids and can’t stand to be around each other. I’m so ready to leave… I just can’t bear the thought of doing it to my children even though another part of me feels like wife and I would both be better parents if our lives were separate. Anyone else done a similar analysis?

What are the top questions you get about big law work over Thanksgiving? Mine is never actually about my work and always some variation of "if you work that much how will you ever get married." Flying home this weekend so bring on the wine!

The sudden death of a friend has made me realize that my obsession with goals has caused me to miss out on so much of my life. How can I learn to refocus and make time for the people in my life?

Is there any scientific reason behind men badly wanting to have an intimate relationship with married women?

I made a mistake. I talked with the ex this morning. He said he misses me. And that while he walk talking to the other woman, he wished he was talking to me instead. And when he saw that I didn’t respond to his texts, he drank a shit ton. And then called this morning.

He’s not willing to commit to the other women because he’s not over me.

I need to block him.

AITA? If my SO of 1 year wants to get a dog, do I get an opinion? We don’t live together

Relationship is going pretty well apart from my partner being pretty unhealthy… I like to eat clean in general but she doesn’t like veggies and I’m a little fearful for our future family if she’s just encouraging them to “eat what you feel like” is there anyway to help change this behaviour? Any suggestions? It’s not like I never go eat fast food or what not, just that our frequency of consuming desserts has increased exponentially after we started dating and she doesn’t exercise either

I used my exes name with some numbers as password for many things.... Its a bitch. Especially when you break up lmao
Don't use your significant other name for passwords

Having a baby boy soon, any new baby boy names please?

Meeting a guy through arranged marriage setup (I am south asian), the guy thinks that girls don't need to work after marriage as husband takes care of expenses , I want to say no to this person for proceeding . basically I feel this person lacks common sense that 2 incomes is better than one in a household. what is the best way to reject this potential groom candidate ?I feel a girl need not sacrifice her career after getting married , as marriage is not life it is part of life.

3 months post breakup… I seemed to be healing well and all the sudden this week I took a huge step back and feel heartbroken all over again. For context I was in a 4 year relationship including 1 year engaged and had to call my wedding off due to his infidelity. How can I shake this? 😔

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, good for nothing husband and they regret that this marriage happened and dragged every single discussion/scenario that we had in these many months in front of the family members.

i never abused my wife, never demanded anything materialistic from her and or her family, i have taken her to different places, bought everything that she demanded for

Has anyone moved significant distance to be close to parents or in-laws? Any regrets or thoughts? Wife and I are in our 30s with one infant and another planned, and currently have no family close by. We both work remote and are considering moving to be closer to family for support.

Anybody know any good books/sources on couples finance or balancing financial mentalities? I have a personal finance mentality or character that is save as much as possible, spend as little on myself as possible, spend mainly on things that could appreciate in value. Whereas my gf is all about treating oneself, and living very comfortably, even if it is not sustainable. It doesn't help as well that I make 3-4x what she makes. Its hard to balance these two mentalities

People give me judge-y glances when I proudly say that I do not want kids. I guess as a woman I am "supposed" to want to be motherly.

Family luddites ask about my work and immediately behave annoyed when I start to answer.

As a woman, I feel like the Indian culture/mentality is a burden. Do any other women feel this way? Do men feel this way? What can we do to change this (on an individual scale)? Therapy?

Parts of the mentality that feel burdensome to me PERSONALLY: parental expectations and societal expectations regarding sexuality, marriage, age, past trauma (sexual assault), motherhood.

can anyone let me know about Hashmap. The company has been acquired by NTT data and they are offering ntt data offer.

YOE is 6. Profile is senior cloud engineer-ETL

What is the salary of a sap mm consultant with 4 years experience

Would you consider Elon Musk African American?

Anyone here into cleaning / Repairing their old watches, like deconstruct and then reassemble? Starting to get into it and it’s been a lot of fun. I bought my first real watch “Sarb033” 4 months ago and now I’ve fallen down a fun watch rabbit hole. Thanks Obama.

How many leaves are allowed to avail as per HR policy in Axis bank. Annual leave policy and sick leaves?

What are some good interview tips when interviewing for a regional position, questions I should ask and how I should respond?

Got transitioned out at my company, for not “clicking” quickly enough with some types of ppl (generally got no problem with it). So why even hire introverts if you expect them to be extrovert anyways?

Does anyone here follow the Financial Samurai blog? Is so, what do folks think about his numbers for "average net worth of the above average couple"? And how does that jive with the FIRE principles/mindset?

Hi Guys,

I appreciate your views on Scaler Academy data science course. The course fees is around 3 lakhs and duration of this course is 12 months. I belongs to Non IT field, is it possible to become a Data Scientist for the one who having non IT background?



Thanks!

Was accidentally nodding during a client meeting 😭😭😭😭😭 what I've feared the most still happened 😭😭😭😭😭 feel my career is over sigh

The W is trying to charge me $1,010 for throwing up in my room Thursday night. Lol. Yolo

Hi Guys,

I gave an interview today where they asked to share my screen and open vs code. I totally forgot that i have one freelance project open in that and they saw that...worst part is the name of the project was freelance-project. Will this cause any issues?

If you’re interested in TAS (FDD) and would like to join a midsized firm, let me know! We’re pretty much all remote, but it ultimately depends on your home office.

Has anyone heard of Steadily Landlord insurance?

Any NYC big law firms that are NOT returning to office yet?

Is there a book or something I can read about first party property defense. Just started working at a firm and they basically threw me into the ocean to swim with no guidance whatsoever.

I've been working for EY for a year. I would like to get a team change as the team culture is toxic. What's the procedures for internal transfer.

Hello! I am a training and new hire onboarding analyst at Blue Cross Blue Shield. I am currently looking into requesting a salary review because I think my salary is a lot lower than it should be. I have a masters degree and been with the company for 11 years. Are there any Analyst here that would share their salary ranges? This will definitely help me with negotiating. Thank you!

Have you changed careers or pivoted because your previous career was detrimental to your mental health? How was that career change process for you? How are things now? Much love to you all!

My spouse’s health insurance no longer covers her antidepressant. The generic version of the drug doesn’t work for her. What can I do to get her on my health insurance plan?

Every project is a roller coaster. Emotions change on a daily basis due to my performance anxiety. What to do to create a mindset of caring less about my performance and being able to look confid(cont

I’m so anxious about my BIL’s fiancé’s bridal shower. My in laws - the entire side has decided Covid isn’t really a thing and have been living their lives like normal since May. None of them have it as far as we know, but my MIL is insisting they have to have a wedding this year and have to have a shower for his fiancé. I totally get that, but I don’t feel comfortable being around them

I was 12 minutes late to an interview for the most ideal role I’ve come across in a long time. I feel like an idiot - probably lost my shot there and then. Interview went well, but being late probably screwed me over

I just started therapy but noticed a $50 bill from insurance, I was expecting around $20 and I have accenture insurance from Aetna. How much are your copays ?

Does anyone else think that Virginia is full of snobs and A-personality strange people. It’s really getting on my nerves. If I could move out of VA today, I would

Mind feels like it’s on a hamster wheel every single day and just won’t stop.

Am I borderline OCD? I don’t count my steps or anything but I do go a little crazy trying to find the “perfect thing” for whatever personal project around the house that I’m working on or shopping.

Hi everyone, I recently moved to Canada for a job that I was initially thrilled about and very qualified for. However the first few months were difficult as a new immigrant and having to deal with a "start up" environment (I came from a larger, more structured institution). I've dealt with heavy competition and insecure leaders. It's been a real up and down experience for me and I lost a lot of professional confidence. Any advice if I should say and fight, move on,or take a work pause? Thanks.

Girlfriend has very obvious high functioning anxiety and body image issues that she admits but thinks she doesn’t need therapy or medication and that reading self-help books will help her. It’s not changing in the last several years and it’s impacting our relationship. Anyone have experience with their SO dealing with untreated anxiety? I know I can’t control her but would like to express my feelings without sending her into a spiral. For context, I’ve been in therapy for 12 months and medicated

I have my first ever therapist visit tomorrow. I feel weirdly anxious. Any thoughts when you guys had your first visit? My suicidal thoughts have been getting much worse so really need this visit.

Has anyone come back from short term disability and had success in returning? Worried about optics and everything. May take a LoA if it’s perceived better politically. Would prefer ST Disability tho

How do you approach getting a doctor to back you up if you want to have the option to take medical leave? Work is taking a toll and exacerbating a chronic health issue I have. Scared to directly ask.

What resources can I use to find a good therapist? The last one I had was really not good

what’s the meaning of life for me? I don’t see myself in the consulting world and daily grind for the next ten sum years. but what can I spend my time on?

How do people with eating disorders deal with the non-healthy routine? It is known that once you treated yourself, if you keep healthy eating habits and exercise, you can get over an ED. But is (...)

Feel like it’s always 1 step forward 2 steps back in life

For those of you living alone, how are you keeping yourself entertained during social distancing? I’m hundreds of miles from my family and the loneliness is starting to get really hard. Zoom/FaceTime calls seem to make the feeling worse, not better. I just feel so isolated. I’ve gone for some outdoor walks with a friend who lives nearby, but otherwise I go weeks without in-person interactions. Any suggestions?