Anyone else here struggle with communication? My director mentioned that I need to work on it and they’re not wrong. I think I just try to not say things because I tend to say too much or overshare but I need to fix it. Anyway what has helped for you?

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What works for me is when I have a thought I want to share, I repeat it a few times in my head or even take the time to write it down and by the time I’m done doing that, if it’s still pertinent to the conversation, then I’ll say it. It helps me cut down on constant talking and also from being completely silent.

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Do you have any examples?

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