Anyone else just super lonely? Even pre-covid I didn’t really do anything on the weekends with anyone. It is always embarrassing having to share weekend stories with coworkers.

Making friends in your late 20s is terribly difficult. Folks who remained close to college friends already seem to have their groups formed. Tips here? I’ve done the Rec sport league thing.

This is a big part of why I want to change cities. Fresh start. Clean slate.

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Work friends are awesome to convert into real friends. Similar hours/schedules and lots in common

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I always get like there had to be a degree of separation between work friends and real friends. But really love the folks I work with. Good advice!

The friend-making phases seem to be: childhood, college, dog-park, trials of child-rearing. Shared interest is one way for form friendships, but it seems to be shared experiences that form the longest bonds

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It really feels like an epidemic! I’ll need to educate myself more on the topic. I didn’t realize it was a formally acknowledged thing.

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DM dawg. Will play COD warzone ✌🏾

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Love this! I don’t have a gaming console unfortunately. But damn that was nice of you.

In the same boat OP tried switching cities but in general making friends is a lot harder in your late 20. What worked for me pre-Covid was enrolling in activities I like and find people who are passionate about the things you like. When you have common points it gets easier to start the conversation.

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Second this. Been there and probably still am a few times. With regards to current scene, I signed up to be a volunteer at startups that can’t pay yet(angel list). IMentor is a great place to start with too so you can learn and give back with helping those kids. Putting myself out there in these 2 made my old friends from school and college reach out in general too. Helped me gain more confidence.
I use fishbowl (honestly) to vent or validate (and get DMs) those thoughts/feelings to a little extent(hey, better here than weigh anything on long lost friends,right?)
I do sometimes slide in messages/responses to stories on IG to compliment friends and that did boom into rekindling some of those old friendships.

Try making friends at 40 with kids 😂

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Loved this.

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I’m a golfer and now join a country club every time we move somewhere new (have done this 3 times in past 15 years). The money is worth it to build relationships. Within 18 months have a ton of friends. Could do same at a social club, tennis club, book club, etc.

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Great idea! Need to figure out what kind of club would be best for me. I’ve looked into meetups and tried the whole Rec sport league thing

Tried making friends with coworkers but they seemed so distant and almost afraid to open up, get to know eachother. Any time I'd ask what they're into or what they've been up to it's always "chilling at home, Netflix". Gave up making friends tbh and I don't feel as lonely as I probably should. I workout, play Dota, go running, watch some new weeb flick, or read a sci-fi book. I also don't enjoy getting drunk so I avoid hangouts where the objective is to get plastered and that limited my network opps.

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Never make work friends personal friends! Ever! Keep your life out of business and business out of your life. You will be much happier.

How long have u been at D? And honestly right now, even with having good amount of friends it feels lonely cause I can’t see anyone. Do you have some hobbies that you can do with others like running or working out and stuff? If you watch any major sports I’ll be your friend lol

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OP maybe you need a change of scenery or pick up some new hobbies. What do you do for fun or find enjoyment in doing? Not everyone has to be adventurous to make friends.

Come to NY I’ll be your friend

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I WANT TO MOVE THERE SO BADLY

+1 to P2’s comments. What hobbies do you enjoy OP?

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Dude tennis is a people involved hobby, I like playing tennis. Move to nyc man.

Make your own friend group

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Yes.

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I’ve been trying to push feeling lonely aside and focus on myself/work, but as of late, it’s been hitting me hard. I’ve drifted from the few friends I had, and agree that making friends in your 20s is difficult! I too have tried to befriend colleagues that I thought were cool/similar to myself, but that didn’t turn out so well aha. I don’t really know what to say because some days are fine, and I busy myself with my hobbies, or by having a couple of drinks, but then there are days when I long for companionship and group banter

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