Anyone else struggling with a long distance relationship? I love my bf and we talk every day but recently I've noticed I tend to overanalyze every little thing he does and get upset/ lonely
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Over insignicant things. I come from a broken family and spent my teenage and early twenties hearing my father rant about my mother, and vice versa. I've never seen my father show any sort of affection and partially due to this reason I've always had a cynical view of marriage and relationships. I always believed I was a strong enough person that this wouldn't impact my relationships but I can't help thinking that it's actually where my insecurities stem from. Can anyone relate at all?

I can relate to this - have had a similar experience feeling insecure in a LDR. I would recommend reading the book Feeling Good by David Burns. This has really helped me recognize my negative thought patterns, and while I still have some work to do on myself, I am genuinely feeling better most days.

My other advice is make sure you and your boyfriend are able to communicate in a healthy and productive way. For the longest time my SO and I couldn’t discuss problems without fighting. He took my insecurities as clinginess and criticism We started having a set time of the week where we calmly discuss any issues, come to a resolution, and also acknowledge the positives. This has helped us a lot - every relationship is different though, so just a suggestion!

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