Anyone else struggling with feeling ‘like yourself’ while pregnant? What are you struggling with? How have you overcome this struggle?

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Yes! The changes to my body happening in the dead of winter were a serious trigger for me (someone with a history of anxiety and depression.)

I got back on my therapy routine again, started prioritizing walks outside in the sunlight and healthy eating. It all helped me get through the pregnancy in a much better way.

Yes - I am so tired that I feel like a shell of a human, uncomfortable, and feel so unattractive in my new body. Above all, I’ve tried to give myself grace and accept that it’s ok to rest and do less, it’s ok if I’m not social and can’t summon the energy to do chores and need to sleep 15 hours a day. That has been a big mindset shift alone. I’ve also been really open with my husband about how I’m beating myself up over it - he reinforces that it’s ok and that he’s not frustrated or judging me and wants to support me so I feel better. I also started on an anti-anxiety/anti-depressant, which has made a world of difference. Lastly, I bought comfortable clothes that fit me and make me feel good - fleece-lined leggings for walks, slip-on shoes (bending over is rough), a cozy jacket and a dressy jacket that fit the bump, bigger underwear and bras, a week’s worth of maternity PJs that I can also wear for nursing, a cute maternity holiday dress, etc. I probably bought more than I needed to (I know some women get by with almost nothing), but it really has helped my mental health and feeling better about myself.

One other thing - I did a maternity photo shoot. Got a couple of pretty dresses, booked a photographer who will also do newborn family photos, did my hair, had my makeup professionally done, and tried to celebrate this time… and I am so glad that I did! It gave me something to look forward to and I felt so beautiful for the first time all pregnancy. I highly recommend it to anyone.

My hypnobirthing affirmations have helped me tremendously. Looking at myself multiple times in the day (especially naked in and out of the shower) and telling myself that I’m a baddie and that I look SOOO good has really changed the way I feel about myself. It may seem silly at first especially when you don’t feel like it but I’m telling you, repetition works.

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