Anyone else struggling with how to message / interpret messages from people on Teams / Slack? I don’t know if I seem rude not putting !s / if I seem too hype putting emojiis and !s ….sometimes I think people are not happy with me because they dont reciprocate the same level of energy…how do I go about this?

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I struggled with this a while ago and realized that the way people respond to your messages has nothing to do with you - each person simply chats in the way that feels most natural to them. Some enjoy emojis, others use !s, and many people share their message without any of the "enthusiasm add-ons". As long as you are polite and courteous when sharing your message, I don't think it can be misinterpreted, and same goes for the people that you are speaking with.

Of course, it goes without saying that if someone is sending you messages that are rude and/or very very cold, it would be good to address (especially if you woek with this person closely). You'll either clear the air, or you will help that person realize that their approach when communicating is alienating everyone they are working with and could use some tweaking.

If there are certain messages where the tone is very important, I would recommend scheduling a call, as this is often missing from texts - so a rule of thumb I use is: if I'm sharing a message that is fact-based, or is a reminder/follow-up, I'll send a quick message; if it's more delicate or requires me to read the other person's body language when delivering my message, then I would schedule a call.

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They’re responding in the appropriate way, you don’t need to be adding emojis and !. It’s something we do as women but it’s something we should work on. There’s no need for us to always be perceived as light and happy, we can just be humans

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