anyone ever hang around for a man to get his shit together that it didn’t end in tears? Any success stories? He specifically said “his now is is fucked and his future is unknown” due to his hardships.

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10 years married to a man who hasn’t been able to get his shit together. The longer you stay, the harder it gets to leave so learn from my example and get out now. Maybe he’ll get it together someday and if you meant something then he’ll come back to you. Until then, focus on yourself....anyone who’s too busy needing to work on themselves can never put in the work that a good relationship requires. Sorry! I know you wanted success stories

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Thank you so much for sharing C1! Appreciate it, these are the stories I need to here that my feeling of “it will get better” can’t be justified. it’s so difficult when you fall in love with just a “potential” thinking he would get things right and it just continues forever. Like you said, if it’s meant to be he will get his shit right and come knocking. Absolutely agree, it’s so difficult to be in a good relationship when there are preexisting issues like this.

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I feel for you. I spent 7 years with a guy who was very hung up on his childhood and disadvantages in life. I tried really hard to support him but he had too much resentment over how comparatively “easy” my life was compared to his. It ended very badly. My fiancé now is the complete opposite and a completely whole person who makes me feel secure. Leaving the guy was so hard at the time (it felt like losing a piece of me) but in hindsight I’m so glad I did.

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Mc1. Yes. You need to start decoupling NOW. Prioritize your own time and needs and start to spend less of your free time with this person to carve out some alone time. Secondly consider getting in the apps as soon as you’re officially broken up. By then you mentally will feel single and ready since seems like you’ve been planning for this for some time (especially based on what you write about your partner). He sounds like a jerk. Don’t waste your time on him!!

Nope. I was actually talking to to a guy friend about this earlier today. My last guy felt intimidated by me because I'm doing "better" than him. And I stayed supportive until the very end when he pushed me out of his life because of his insecurities and depression. Guys will say women don't put in the work to grow with a guy instead of just showing up on the successful end but like... Some don't want that I guess 🤷🏾‍♀️ It sucks because he has such amazing potential. He knew how to talk to and interact with me. We got along super well. Not to mention the dude ate pussy with gusto 😏

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Nope - none of the ones i dated ever got their stuff together. Ever. It has been many years and nothing’s changed on their end

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