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My dad is a commercial pilot, gone for 3-4 days at a time throughout my childhood. Definitely makes me more open to being away from my partner for longer periods of time whereas she would love to be together 24/7. I find being together that much stresses me out and I need my space from time to time to even it out.
Same! Parents worked shift and I’m happier when my partner and I both travel. Too many days together is too much!
My dad travelled a lot when I was young. I remember being sad at the time, but we have a super close relationship today so it worked out fine
My dad traveled some (once a month was gone for ~1 week). Whenever he was home, he was very present and spent his time with us (with very occasional evening meetings, maybe 2/ month for half an hour to an hour).
I grew up very close to my dad because when he was home, he came to our sports events, made breakfast with us, helped me and my siblings with homework. Never really felt like he was an absent parent. But I know he had to work hard to leave work *at work* and to be really present with us when he was home, even when work was stressful.
I had been much closer with my grandmother and am much closer with my sister because my parents were never home. It’s hard to isolate anything else in my personality that’s a direct reflection of their traveling
My mom was gone for 2 weeks most months for ~10 years and my dad worked a 9-5 near our house. It ended up working out great in some ways because we went on really cool trips, but it was also hard because she was gone. She brought home books or clothes we loved, sent us postcards, and called home almost daily (before smart phones).
When she was home, she was very present, tucked us in at night, we ate dinner together every night, and I think she made every single concert/sporting event when she was in the country.
Good question. I went internal when my kids arrived and now I feel trapped career wise.
Tbh it made me more independent. I don't resent my parent at all for it, because it's not like I knew any better so I was perfectly fine. I figured out most things on my own (how to sign up for SATs, how to apply to college, how to get a part-time job) with almost no involvement from them and it worked out pretty well in my adult life. By contrast, my parent retired by the time my younger siblings grew up so they got constant hand-holding, making them very dependent. They don't have much of their own initiative as a result (parent had to tell them when and where to take their SATs because they missed all the previous deadlines, had to find housing for them for college bc they did no research, explicitly tell them to get a job bc they kept running out money etc).
My dad travelled 3-4 days a week for most of my childhood. We are very close now but it was hard on me growing up.
Both my parents were gone often and worked hard to provide a great future for my brother and I. I’m grateful for their hard work and sacrifice.
The pros of this is that it made me independent and gave me critical thinking skills to “figure it out” on my own in all areas of life because I couldn’t depend on them to be available.
The downside - based on discovery in therapy - is that it’s made me hyper independent and avoidant in relationships because I feel like I can’t trust/depend on people to be there, as well as more “avoidant anxious” in my attachment styles
Both my parents worked full time and travelled internationally for work when I was growing up. We had a lot of babysitters and I remember being a little jealous of friends whose moms could pick them up from school every day, but we made it work. But as someone said above, when my parents were home, they were very present. They came to every event that they could and we ALWAYS ate dinner together. I think that made a big difference. I also feel like I am much more independent because I didn’t have a parent around all the time and I’m kinda thankful for that.
I should say they were not traveling weekly, but since their trips were mostly international, it was like a week to ten days once a month
My dad worked in our old town for a year after we moved, driving back and forth to spend weekends with us (4 hour drive).
I don’t recall this or remembering any concerns, but he recently confided that I once asked him when he was going to stop leaving us and be with his family. Apparently that was a trigger for him to wrap things up and find local work.
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I was resentful at times but I'm way more independent and self sufficient and had an easier time becoming friends with my parents in adulthood than my friends who were more attended to at every turn in childhood
It wasn't on the level of neglect, but I did feel really alone at times and turned to validation from peers in ways that weren't always good. But that's pretty common regardless of parental attentiveness/presence
My dad traveled every week and, when I was 7, I seriously thought that he had another family somewhere and he was cheating on us. That was obviously not true.
Anyways, I feel fine mentally and emotionally.
My dad traveled a lot for work until I was about 6 or 7. My Dad and I are close now, but majorly impacted my relationship with my Mom, because she was operating as a solo parent for a good chunk of time and had too much put on her in terms of parenting. If 1 member of partnership is traveling a lot, and its financially feasible, make sure the other one is supported with paid extra help/family support etc.
My dad was gone so much during my upbringing. My relationship with him now isn’t unhealthy, that would infer we have a relationship. We just really don’t have much that bonds us. I think he never understood what it meant to be a parent because he was only focused on providing financially rather than emotionally. Good news- I am super close with my mom!