Anyone have a self harm problem? High pressure project making mine worse than it’s ever been. Not life threatening but not healthy and increasingly visible to others. I can’t seem to kick it this time

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Please see a therapist and talk to your doctor about it . You will get through this phase . Sending good vibes and positivity .

Second IBM1. This is unhealthy, but unfortunately it’s not abnormal in most cases. Please seek help, I PROMISE it will help and you will feel much better.

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