Anyone have experience "moving for love"? I'm talking moving from a large city to a midsize city, somewhere you never thought you'd move to, but makes sense to move there because that's where her family is and we want to start a family soon after getting married. Any advice? Been in an LDR for 2 years, met online.

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Move if you feel you are doing it for YOURSELF and want to build a family and better relationship. “It makes sense/its financially better” is not a good reason.

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You nailed it.
Move because you believe it right for your happiness.

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She moved from New England to Midwest for me. And I would have done the same if it was easier that way. So do it!

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If you love her, do it!

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I've had friends for whom this was successful and others for whom this was a disaster. It'll be a test of your relationship for sure. Have you met her family? How well do you get along? Is this an area where you'll have plenty of job opportunities?

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I did this. Moved to The US from Canada then once in US, we moved to a larger city for my spouse's job. We are together for 11 years and married for 8 and now have a baby. It was definitely a lot of hard work but it's a lot better and won't ever go back to LDR.

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Yes, moved for love. No regrets!

No family involved, so perhaps that makes a difference.

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What are your reservations?

Is her family going to foot the bill to help you build your family? Along with child rearing?

I’m an immigrant and I come from a culture where women usually move in with the husband closer to where his family is. Which comes with the financial and community support around it.

Considering that I don’t have much family around in the states I’d have no problem moving to where her family is. But it would have to make sense financially and practically, when it comes raising a family.

I hear that Americans usually fall into the same scenario you’re considering, but idk the details of that kind of dynamic.

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