Anyone have stories of reconnecting with your high school sweetheart (HSS) over a decade later? Was there still a spark? What ultimately happened?
I just got back from flying out of state to reconnect with mine. Now I’m even more confused on where we stand. By the way... I’m in the midst of a divorce and trying to find a job anywhere else but my home state. So I reached out to my HSS and applied for jobs near him. I stayed with him while I interviewed for jobs in nearby towns....

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How long were you together and did you split because of distance during college?

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We were together 4 years. We did split because I left the state to go to college and wanted to go to law school. Was super serious about my future career. He was a hard worker and loved me like no one else ever did again and was trying to make the long distance thing work. But ultimately, I couldn’t and wanted to focus on my future career, which at the time, did not have room for a significant other who was a big partier & pill popper.

But... now he is divorced no kids and went through hell and just the past few years got sober. He is an exceptional man.

👀

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We were 15 and in high school when we started catching feelings for each other. I ended up moving away due to family issues and was given a weeks notice that we were moving so we didn’t have time on our side to be a couple. We went our separate ways and kept in contact via text or call very sporadically over the last 10 years. We both recently got out of relationships and reconnected by chance when I was visiting my old hometown during the holidays. There was an instant spark and now we are now unequivocally happy together.

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Thank you SC1! I feel exactly that way. I’m moving regardless- just don’t know where, but why not to a place where I already know someone?

I just feel a little crazy for taking the step. . . Although I don’t feel crazy if I just move to a random town not knowing anyone. Been there done that. But never moved to be near someone who I’m not even in a relationship with.

We talked about all the times we were involved with other people how we wished we would run into each other. Used to live in the same state just 2 years ago about an hour away, but I practiced in his town. The timing was never quite right.

Now we are states away and are in no rush but I feel like I want to let this opportunity go.

He is not even pressuring me at all. I just worry about picking up and establishing roots somewhere else and if things ended up working out between us, then having to pick up roots again to go him (he cannot leave his situation).

But on the other hand, if I go near him now, I feel like I’m crazy, because I would have never considered the state he is in. I don’t hate it, but just never crossed my mind.

Update if any one is interested...

After I got back from visiting High school sweetheart, I got 3 offers in his home state. I told him about them and never received a response. He totally ghosted me.

I get a random text today explaining why.

In a nutshell:
- He couldn’t handle the pressure of being a part in my decision to want to take a job near him.
- I am too nice and he needs a girl who will give him shit if/when he deserves it. He thinks I will just overlook things.
- He got frustrated one night I was there because I was cleaning up after dinner and he said not to worry about it. I made a comment of that is how I find my value, by helping. I guess this turned him off because he specifically mention how this broke his heart for me. For context, he just got done working a 12 hour day and made me dinner. This was the least I could to help.
- Me wanting my relocate my parents nearby where I ended up freaked him out (even though he shares a home with his during the spring and summer months).

Before visiting him, I got chapter long texts over 2 months of how much we could be there for another now and even said I could move in with him if I got a job in his town. I never said yes or acted overly eager to any of this but just acknowledged what he was saying and thanked him for offering.

I don’t get it. He said I looked exactly the same in high school (actually I’m skinner in better shape now) and it would be easy for him to fall all over me again.

I am a pretty girl but reserved and humble about it. I’m extremely nice, thoughtful of others, and I have such a good heart. Though, I have been told by many (males and females) I try too hard (by being nice and overdoing things for others), but that is where I find my joy and value.

Please I would love some perspective about this from everyone but if any males have insight, I would appreciate brutal honesty.

BTW I’m in therapy and truly trying to work on myself, but I have no friends to give me an unbiased and honest perspective.

You do you and be single and sexy!

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