As a male I would like to add my point of view. A few years back we realized that we could not use my wife’s eggs ever. I told her the three options were donor, adoption or no children, to be honest the last one hurt saying it buts my wife and I need her to feel comfortable. When we chose donor it was a long talk of this is OUR child and she had to feel that 100%. Luckily having a child is more important than core genetics and we are now at month 5. Be strong keep faith !
Infertility sucks at any age. I went a decade of trying and was fortunate after several rounds and several transfers to have an OE son. But a couple years later and several more rounds... we finally moved on to DE. Even that wasn’t fool proof and I went through one (proven) donor before finally getting success with DD. It took me a long time to give up on my own eggs and genes and that is a decision you and your partner will have to make. There are still ways for you to be a mom if you are ready to give up on IVF - it in no way diminishes your role in your child’s life whether through adoption, DE or whatever path you choose. And if you decide to not have children that is ok too!! Infertility isn’t fair but you are fortunate that you get to decide what’s next and still have options. Much love and hugs!
I’m 42 and trying with IVF. First round I had 3 follicles. I started going to acupuncture regularly once a week and sometimes twice a week even on the road. I also increased my intake of CoQ10. That helped increase my follicle count. Trying a third round of IVF. Don’t give up hope!
I’m 40. In October 3 days before I started my injections, I was diagnosed with breast cancer and had a lumpectomy putting my IVF journey on hold. Just got the clear from the oncologist to continue with IVF as I still want to try and have a baby. For background - I had 3 miscarriages in the last 2 years before considering IVF. After the breast cancer diagnosis, I did feel like I’m not meant to be a mother or ever experience the joy of child birth. But, I know that’s not true! Hang in there. You are not alone in this journey!
As a male I would like to add my point of view. A few years back we realized that we could not use my wife’s eggs ever. I told her the three options were donor, adoption or no children, to be honest the last one hurt saying it buts my wife and I need her to feel comfortable. When we chose donor it was a long talk of this is OUR child and she had to feel that 100%. Luckily having a child is more important than core genetics and we are now at month 5. Be strong keep faith !
Infertility sucks at any age. I went a decade of trying and was fortunate after several rounds and several transfers to have an OE son. But a couple years later and several more rounds... we finally moved on to DE. Even that wasn’t fool proof and I went through one (proven) donor before finally getting success with DD. It took me a long time to give up on my own eggs and genes and that is a decision you and your partner will have to make. There are still ways for you to be a mom if you are ready to give up on IVF - it in no way diminishes your role in your child’s life whether through adoption, DE or whatever path you choose. And if you decide to not have children that is ok too!! Infertility isn’t fair but you are fortunate that you get to decide what’s next and still have options. Much love and hugs!
Sorry.. dear daughter. You will see these acronyms on a lot of websites and blogs. DD, DS, DH, OE, DE, etc...
I’m 42 and trying with IVF. First round I had 3 follicles. I started going to acupuncture regularly once a week and sometimes twice a week even on the road. I also increased my intake of CoQ10. That helped increase my follicle count. Trying a third round of IVF. Don’t give up hope!
I’m going to a clinic in Denmark. Did consider Shady Grove in the US.
I’m 40. In October 3 days before I started my injections, I was diagnosed with breast cancer and had a lumpectomy putting my IVF journey on hold. Just got the clear from the oncologist to continue with IVF as I still want to try and have a baby. For background - I had 3 miscarriages in the last 2 years before considering IVF. After the breast cancer diagnosis, I did feel like I’m not meant to be a mother or ever experience the joy of child birth. But, I know that’s not true! Hang in there. You are not alone in this journey!
I wish you so much success. I hope you have some good news
Is it fair to the child? And is this a sign from the universe that we should just accept it and move on?
Why are you not considering egg donor? If you have a birth sister then it will be exact gene pool
Husband doesn't want donor and dont have a sister. If I absolutely insist he will say ok.
How many follicles do you have each cycle at start?
Well 3 years ago had about 21. I'm about to go revisit ivf after 3 failed ones, and a full year of chinese meds which now we are stopping