Anyone here experience stillbirth? If so, any advice on how you overcame the grieving? I just delivered my son at 38+5 last week and struggling to get back to routine. Hoping the worst week of my life is behind me.

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OP, I am so sorry for your loss. I have not experienced this personally, but my mother experienced stillbirth at 9 months before having me. She only recently told me about it - that’s how painful it was for her.

One thing she did say is she wished she would have allowed herself time to grieve. She buried her emotions and while you never truly get over it, she was able to move forward only after allowing herself that time to grieve in the way she needed, completely judgement free. I don’t know what that looks like for you, but please take whatever time you need to grieve. Do not let society pressure you into being “positive” and the like before you are ready. What you experienced is deeply traumatic and you deserve the time, space, and support to grieve as you need. Sending lots of love ❤️

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Just came here to say I’m so sorry and honestly DM me if you need anything at all. I’m happy to send food via Grubhub, DoorDash, whatever. I hope you have a ton of support and love right now OP, I can’t imagine. Sending hugs your way .

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So sorry for your loss. A friend of mine experienced a stillbirth in May, and she’s still struggling. Her Instagram handle is @mom.wife.actuary and she posts about her journey - perhaps you’ll find inspiration or solace in her posts

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I’m so sorry for your loss.

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I’m so sorry dear. Wishing you strength and hopefully support in your friends, family, and Fishbowl colleagues. 💔

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So sorry to hear, wishing you comfort during this time.

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Dropping a dm

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So sorry for your loss

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I am so sorry you are going through this

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I’m so sorry for your loss.😔

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I am so, so sorry for your loss.

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I’m so sorry for your loss. Please take the time you need to grieve.

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So so sorry for your loss.

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I’m so sorry for your loss. Sending ❤️ your way

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Sending you so, so much love, and I am so deeply sorry. I haven't had a stillbirth or even a loss other than that of IVF embryos, so I can't speak to that specifically, but I think reading the My Sweet Dumb Brain newsletter (https://mysweetdumbbrain.substack.com/) has really helped me process grief in other areas of my life. Katie's approach is so authentic and gentle and comforting. I have a gift subscription available to send you if you DM me your email address. Heads-up that she does have a 2-year-old and references her kid on the regular, and she experienced postpartum psychosis, which may not be a healthy topic for you. You may never "overcome" this grief, and life may not be routine for a very long time, but you can turn it into strength and survival, and hopefully you will have a happy healthy baby someday soon! <3

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So sorry for your loss ❤️ it will take time to grieve and that is ok. When you are ready talking to a trusted friend or therapist or linking up with a support group or newsletters as some mentioned that can connect you with others that are experiencing similar circumstances. It can be helpful to hear someone put into words some of what you may be feeling or have felt.

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