Anyone here in an unhappy marriage and feeling miserable

What are you doing to feel less alone right now?
I’m alone and living in a city where I don’t know anyone, so I’m alone all the time and don’t talk to anyone face to face... I facetime friends and family (9 hr time diff), but I think the isolation and lack of live human contact and interaction is really getting to me. I think I’ve been coping with overeating and constant screen time. I feel so out of control.

I recently started seeing someone new and he's mentioned that his religion is really important to him. I grew up in a religious household, but I'm not religious at all anymore. I don't have any strong opinions either way so it's not a deal breaker for me, but it seems to weigh on him a little that we don't share the same beliefs. What can I do to support him and show him I care about his values without it coming across as insincere?

I make more than my husband and he clearly has a spending problem...I suggested maintaining separate bank accounts and he took it really negatively. Is this too much to ask? How do other working couples deal with it?

I used to be a special Ed teacher and changed careers to an executive assistant at BMO after facing major burnout from teaching. Now that I’m a first time mom, i really want to work part time or even .75, but I do not want to go back to teaching right now. I am thinking of tutoring- any suggestions on private tutoring vs. tutoring companies?

First-gen grad students, does your family put pressure on you to succeed? It feels like our relationship is them just bugging me about my work. I’d love some advice, I miss my fam.

Story: I had this group of girlfriends. Over the past year, two of them got in a major fight and I remained friends with both. The group all sided with one girl because they knew her longer, and I kept being friends with both because I genuinely cared for both. Now the larger group is saying if I remain friends with the other girl, I can’t be their friend (we’re 28). This makes me sad because I feel like my “friendships” are just falling to the wayside

Emotionally checked out of my firm. The more updates leadership sends, the more active my interview search is! Sigh! I love my firm but doesn’t make sense continuing this relationship. Anyone else in the same boat?

Just found out my boyfriend of 3 months (talking stage was about 6 months before making it official) slept with his ex a couple times while we were talking. After we agreed to be exclusive. Without protection. I’m so crushed 😞

How to politely tell my partner stop spending too much time on playing video games? It was my false at first. I introduced Zelda breathe of the wild to her and now, she is hooked. She even played game when we had the movie night. I chose the her movie style but she let me to watch it alone and silently turned on the game, and played it while pretended to watch the movie with me. That’s not fun at all. What should I do? Any advice please?

Hey Folks !
Need a piece of advice.
A company I've worked for before (in Europe), has reached out to me offering me the opportunity to work for them again as an expat from Asia.
They know about my personal situation (same-sex relationship, unmarried couple).
The job sounds great, but also a dilemma as my partner wouldn't be supported in this relocation. Do you have experience with continent relocations and how s your partner / family supported ? Thanks, Gafi

Over a week ago my long distance (ex)bf (US) and I (NL) broke up. I was ready to move to US for him and get married; he’d never want to move to NL. I couldn’t accept that: I needed to know it could still be an option to live in NL in the future, if that became necessary due to my family situation. He ruled it out because pay is lower here, though we’d still be super comfortable financially (top 1-5%). Is money the key driver in such decisions, even in consulting? Did I do right by breaking up?

Is anyone married to someone who feels a cultural duty to support extended family? Spouse feels obligated to provide for parents, aunts, and uncles—money, time, and effort—while putting our relationship and our finances on the back burner. Will extended family always come first?

For the older 🐠 out there. Have any of you successfully re-dated an ex and end up getting married? Haven't talked to an ex in 2 years and really hit it off.

Recently ended a 3+ yr relationship (were both mid 20s and living together for just under 2 years) bc of him buying an engagement ring yet not proposing and waffling about our future. After 2 weeks I brought up that there’s a lot of good in us that maybe worth trying to work on (counseling etc). He wants space first and asked me to not wait for him as he sorts out his emotions and “tries to be happy again” (COVID depression and 100hr work weeks). Then he’ll decide if he wants to try again

One of my friends had a breakdown because I am more successful and she is intimidated that I am friends with her boyfriend (we were friends before she came along). Should I try to save the friendship?

Immigrant here. Considering purchasing a house and wondering what weight would you attach to elementary school in your decision making? I have a 1 year old currently. See myself at the new house for at least 2-5 years. No more than 5 though.

How important is elementary school to set up my kid for success in Canada ? I am hearing conflicting opinions - some say elementary schools are the same all over GTA, doesn't matter where your kid goes. Is this true ?

My husband is coming to visit me next month and it’s ice cold. Suggestions on activities / entertainment around downtown Toronto for a young couple ( we are in a long distance marriage for a few months )

My roommate can watch tv the whole day without taking any breaks. And she can do it everyday. Thats some sort of skills right? I honestly don’t understand that.

Parents coming in for a cruise for anniversary. Where should I take them to dinner?

How do you get out of work “ruts”? I’ve been in a work rut for going on 1.5 months now and I can’t seem to get out of it. I’m an account executive and luckily the business is still coming in and I’m staying busy, but I’ve just been feeling lazy…. I’ve let things fall through the cracks. I’m not working extra hours like I use to, or working with any sense of “urgency”. I use to jump out of bed every morning to go to work. This isn’t typical me…

What have you done to get out of work ruts?

Anybody know where I can find benchmarks for contest entry/redemption rates? Looking to establish KPIs for an on-pack retail promo.

considering buying a piece of rental real estate in a different state NC and I currently live in FL. Would setting up an LLC be the best option to protect my personal assets? Best option and pls lmk if there is better: single member, SCorp elect, C, pshp. I am married and HHI 150k.

I want to invest in solid ETFs after getting burned on straight equities. What do you all recommend?

Has anyone done the CAIA credential? Care to explain your journey?:)

Hey! Would anyone in this bowl be willing to refer me?

How do you guys deal with visa + layoff together!

Someone correct me if I’m wrong… for PDM Analysts/Senior Analysts with 93% utilization target, working 40 hours a week, factoring in holidays/collective disconnect days… there’s 1 day of PTO available across the entire performance year in order to meet utilization by Jan 8? Is that even legal? Lol

Are you putting on the app forms that deloitte is covering “100% of the total MBA cost?” Im a bit hesitant since it’s paid retroactively, only covers tuition and we are still eligible for scholarships

Any companies still hiring MBA interns this summer? My friend at Booth had a summer consulting internship that just got cancelled and is looking for other places to apply ASAP.

Is this a good time to go to ad school ?! If given the chance, is VCU simply the better option?

Which real estate firms offer tuition assistance/reimbursement?

Does educational prestige matter at all when applying to jobs?

I’m working on my masters in Interaction Design/Human Factors, have related experience in the tech industry, and would like to get a role in Product Design when I graduate. Ideally, I’d like to get in with a “known” company (not necessarily MANGA/FAANG) and while I like the grad program I’m in, it’s at a small school that’s not well known. Would transferring to a “more prestigious” program make me more competitive for jobs?

LEAP calls TSIA I guess? Cuz chamath said so?

Honestly the follower mentality in this market is gross to me. Further, that the Fed Res system in the US has made its intentions clear: "no more crashes, and if there are crashes then we'll print money so that the crash nominally lasts only a few months"

A lot of my peer feel that deleterious inflationary effects of such monetary policy are inevitabe (i.e. financial inflation will inevitably trickle down to consumer inflation) ... (cont)

What are you doing to feel less alone right now?
I’m alone and living in a city where I don’t know anyone, so I’m alone all the time and don’t talk to anyone face to face... I facetime friends and family (9 hr time diff), but I think the isolation and lack of live human contact and interaction is really getting to me. I think I’ve been coping with overeating and constant screen time. I feel so out of control.

My mind is all over the place. Coach/RL performance meeting tomorrow with HR invited. Was told not to worry, but how can’t I? “we wanted to have HR present to ensure we communicate correctly”. no idea what this means and I’m scared 😔

Is it just me or does consulting really make you insecure about yourself - doing the best you can but can it ever be enough? Also, what’s with all the optics and crazy judgment all the time?

What happens in therapy sessions? How did they help you? How did you express your objectives, other than "help me feel better"?

Thinking of starting medication soon for depression & maybe anxiety. I’m super afraid of the side effects from weight gain to “me not being me” anymore. Does anyone take meds, and how did it affect u?

How to deal with aging parents when living in another state? I visit when I can but now in airport waiting to leave, feeling guilt and deep sadness.

I just wanted to thank all you folks that contribute to this bowl. For me personally, its helpful to know that i’m not alone with struggles that we all seem to face. Thanks!

Sat down today and self-reflected. Life took its course, people around me have moved on (got married, settled down, moved to a different place, bought their own place, traveled to places they dreamt about) while I'm still grinding at work that I don't see myself 10 years from now, still single, getting old, still dreaming about traveling without needing to work and just be free and "me". I don't know what I want in life...

Omg I just realized I post so much on this bowl that I’m badged 😬 yikes

Any advice on managing expectations? I’ve always had this dream to move to Europe for a couple years and travel the continent. The older I get the more I realize this will never happen for me. However, I see my friends doing it and it really cuts deep because I realize I can’t achieve my dreams. How do you deal with accepting things like this? It’s really taking a toll on my mental health and overall ability to be happy.

Why am I extra depressed on fridays? What type of human is depressed on Fridays 😩

The only thing I look forward to on the weekend is drinking a beer or two. I had one beer on Friday. One on Saturday. I know that's not a lot by some standards but I miss going to my gym to unwind. I can't get that escape at home.

How do you know when it’s time to throw in the towel and quit work and try to find something else? I haven’t been in my current position for long and am a new graduate but I feel terrible all the time but don’t want to admit that the last few years of my education/debt were all for nothing.

What “self help” books are you guys reading? I just read Untamed by Glennon Doyle and wow, I want to start from the beginning again, but feel like I should read something else. Would love any suggestions.

What does it feel like to not be depressed? I’ve been working with my therapist and have gradually been feeling better and better. Lately I find myself having more energy than I know what to do with and feeling a lot of joy for just being alive. It’s so foreign to me that I doubt this feeling all the time. Is this what someone without depression feels?!

Sometimes I get emotional when I leave my SO, and cry. He said it’s hard for him to see me cry...should I be worried?

I’m really not cut out for corporate America. I’m only 3 months into my new job and my anxiety is through the roof again. I don’t see a way out to make a decent living for myself. I feel lost and tired. I cried today and feel incapable even though I know I really tried my best.

I did not get a full time offer from my internship this past summer at a top consulting firm they told me on the second to last day. I have been trying to recruit at other consulting firms however haven’t received any offers yet. I struggle with severe depression and anxiety and often struggle with telling others when I struggle with it. I am having thoughts of ending it all because of the combined stress of school and now recruiting with little opportunities left.