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Anyone here overthink their responses to emails? Sometimes I'll hit send and then think shit, what if it comes across as if I'm being a know-it-all, or taking someone else's thunder, or it doesn't come across in the right tone and someone gets offended (I absolutely never try to do any of these things intentionally). I doubt anyone feels this way - I've never gotten feedback about it nor has anyone ever indicated it, its just me in my head thinking about how to / not to phrase things...

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Pretty sure most women in business have experienced this

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I overthink literally every word that comes out of my mouth

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My outgoing email box has a 2 minute hold on it. That way I can second guess myself after I hit send.

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That is very normal. Know your audience. Do they want tons of info or a quick one two sentence reply. This can be very helpful in delivering your message.

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Happens to me all the time. It really slows me down and I hate it

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Yup 🙋

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I overthink that. Come to think of it, I overthink everything. 🤷‍♂️

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Same with slack messages over here...

The backspace, copy & paste keys to start next version are my best friends

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You’re definitely not the only one.

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If it is worthy, I save it as a draft and read it again before the end of the day with fresh eyes.

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Yes if I’m upset I will save as draft wait 24 hours and reread before sending

Definitely relate to this. Especially if you started a new job during the pandemic and haven't met your colleagues in person. You're obviously just doing your job and if someone takes your messaging the wrong way, then that might be more of a reflection on them.

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Yes all the time. It’s an anxiety/adhd thing. I just try to remember that tone does not come across in email so emotionally charged topics I will just ask for a phone call.

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