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Lol M1… I thought about this too.
Get engaged, there is no pressure there
We want to spend more time together before committing to an engagement
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Have your parents talked to his parents? If so, maybe the next step is they meet? Ideally you would both want to connect and grow your understanding organically before the parents get involved or things are formalized.
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Gotta love this crazy terminology that gives away ethnicities 😂
Can he and a sibling/cousin meet you and your siblings/cousins? That way you all can have one big dinner together but also have some one on one conversation at the restaurant too.
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What do you mean by engagement? For most people it’s just the ring exchange or such, but for some (mostly Arabs) they consider a nikah which is technically marriage to be an engagement.
If the former I’d say you can exchange rings and return them if it doesn’t work out. Don’t think of it as being binding.
Or tell your parents to back off.
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OP, have you tried reasoning with your parents that committing to get married is not possible without understanding the guy a bit better?
I was in a similar situation last year. I would suggest talking with your parents and help them understand that you both want to meet each other before taking a step like engagement. Also, for us it helped when his parents spoke with my parents on call as it gave mine an idea about his family & background which relaxed them out. Unfortunately sometimes in south Asian cultures (some not all) it is hard to keep seeing a guy without having family involvement or some substantial step like engagement.
In long distance relationship and you’re going to have to take that slack on for a while but tbh you can slow the process down since its long distance - meet his family or just his mom/sibling first when you go visit next and like wise then visit his whole family on one trip and vice versa then finally both families meet and you can get to know him separately more but you should set a timeline for yourself that either you get engaged by or plan to by the 1 year mark or really consider parting cause it only gets harder the more you meet
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3/4 months.
Phone calls do the trick. Like we would call each other at like 9pm on Saturday so we are both done with everything and then can just talk. The first phone call is super awkward, the second less so. For the first month we were just talking about tv shows because neither felt comfortable to talk about their own life.
And for texting I would say share random updates of your day but text each day. Like it doesn’t have to be news. Text things like i ate a great pizza, oh the like at target is too long so it make the other person normal and then you talk about target etc
We are still a little physically awkward around each other but we feel comfortable enough that we say that to each other