Anyone into attachment style theories?

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I’m anxious ambivalent too. Makes sense. Lot of abandonment issues from childhood. Mother had borderline personality disorder. Both of them disowned me when i came out as gay. Incredibly insecure about my appearance so I’m constantly bracing for impact you could say even in a relationship.

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I think being aware really helped me and also when I started dating, anyone that smelled avoidant I steered far away.

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I took mine (dianepooleheller.com) and am quite surprised but how much “secure” I have

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I’m anxious avoidant... prob worst combo ever and it’s eating at the way I date

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D1, we are almost twins! The book Attached is a little outdated but really good. I see attachment styles play out every day in my marriage. It’s nice to know what’s going on, even if changing your attachment style is veeeery difficult. It’s most useful, I think, in choosing a partner.

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Yes I am really into it and believe 100%. I’m anxious

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I feel like my insecurity comes out as imposter syndrome at work. I get so anxious wondering what people at the firm think of me. And in a gossipy political firm like Deloitte that can be bad.

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I’ve only read attached and information / results based on that. Where are you all taking this test above? What’s “disorganized” - both dismissive and anxious? Anxious / ambivalent don’t sound like they should be interchangeable - anxious people are almost never ambivalent about anything?

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Most definitely

Just read up on it now. Dismissive-Avoidant in the House!

How does this play out in your relationships and what are u doing abt it?

Just took my test:

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Should you consciously choose to be with someone who provokes old parental based attachment patterns to work on them or avoid them like a plague?

Interesting!
Just took it - curious to see how this turns out related to age and gender

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