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Met and married my soul mate at 42. It will be 10 years in May and I wouldn’t change a thing.
10 year relationship ended on my 30th birthday (last year involved cheating, lying, etc). Met my husband six months later. Just turned 35, got engaged, married, and pregnant at 34. We are so happy!
Also- some of my good friends got married in late 30s or even 40– never settle! 1 was married at ~40 to divorced dad of 2 teenage girls. They had two babies together. Another was married at 40 to her husband- knew each other since 3rd grade and restarted dating in late 30s. One was married at ~39 to 49 y-o husband.
All are married for 5-7 years now and happy!
Whatever you do, don’t settle because you don’t have a SO before a certain age. It’s a recipe for disaster. Keep focusing on you, things can change in a heartbeat when you’re not looking.
I met my soulmate after a horrible 22 year marriage. Can’t begin to tell you just how amazing we are together. Good luck!
Rising Star
For some perspective— at 26, you haven’t even made it to your 10 year HS reunion. You are still so, so young! There are these interesting cycles: wave of weddings in your 20s, a baby wave late 20s/early 30s, and a wave of divorces mid-late 30s. When you are living in the wedding wave, if feels anxiety provoking to not be riding it too, but trust me- if you settle or rush it, you are more likely to be riding the divorce wave later. You will find a partner and when you are sure of who you are and living confidently, you’ll find someone who can keep pace. ❤️
If anyone wants to share any inspirational stories, that'd be helpful!
Go read about Sara blakely ☺️she was 39...
Yes. In my 30s, at a bar in nyc. Wish I hadn’t stressed myself so much about not finding someone in my 20s and enjoyed it even more. Just remain open, date and have fun.
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+1 NYC bar. Married for 5 years now. Met him at 25
Met my SO at age 31. Married at 36. First kid at 37. Wouldn’t have done it any differently. Gave me so much time to travel and focus on personal and career development, and figure out what type of marriage and partner I want to be. We change so much between mid 20s and early/mid 30s - use that time to figure out who you are and what’s important to you and the right person will find you.
SAME HERE 😩
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I know people that met their significant others at pretty much any age! It’s never too late!
And 27 is definitely not too old
Pro
Well, OP sounded like she was concerned that it is too old 🤣. I definitely don’t think it is at all!
Pro
It’s easier said than done, but try not to put yourself under time pressure. Being single longer is 1000x better than settling for someone just to scratch the itch. My 28 year old cousin went on over 52 dates with new men in 3 months and landed on this guy who is 85% closeted (I have mutual friends with his friend group and he grew up very conservative) but he checks all of her superficial boxes and after less than a year together, they’re getting married and walking into a “will he leave me in 2 years?” Situation. Have faith in the process, be happy with yourself and the right person will happen. Don’t force anything - you deserve something real!
Yes! I had taken a break from dating for a while and was focusing on getting back into sports, and then met my now finance at a friends party I almost didn’t go to. Try not to stress and something will fall into place (totally understand it is easier said than done)
Oh goodness you have plenty of time !
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I met my now-husband at 28 after we met on a dating app. He proposed 1.5 years later!
Some benefits of dating in your late 20s and beyond is that guys tend to be more sure of what they want and propose earlier, although there are exceptions, of course!
Met mine at 33. He was 37. We are super happy and expecting our first baby.
There’s no need to rush. But if you are ready to meet someone, there’s no harm in dating very deliberately. I decided I was ready and set out to use dating apps to meet men.
The secret is to use a dating app just for that – to meet. Don’t use it to maintain a bunch of penpals. I asked guys out for date #1 in my opening message. All you need is about 30 minutes to know if you want date #2, so it’s even possible to schedule more than one in a single evening— and that way you get more mileage out of doing your hair and makeup. Pick one night a week and make a date night. Ask six guys if they’re free. At least three will be. Meet three people: one at 6:00, one at 7:00, one at 8:00, tell the rest something came up and schedule them for date night next week. Rinse and repeat. Oh, and if you like the man to take the lead, as I do, leave it up to him to follow up about date #2.
If your guy is one in 1 million, get busy meeting 1 million so you can find him. It’s just math.
Chief
Yes! Met my now husband at 27. Married at 30, baby #1 at 31, baby #2 about to arrive at 33 :)
Chief
I dated some real idiots prior to my husband, so if it meant waiting even longer in life to find him, it would have been worth it.
My life would not be nearly as happy of fulfilled if I had married any of my previous loser boyfriends :)
Thank you all, feeling a lot better ❤️ appreciate the uplifting stories!
My aunt did in her early 30s! She now has an awesome husband and the most adorable kids!!
I did!
I did - there are still plenty of great guys (and gals) out there for you!
Met my husband at 30 and was married by 31. It will happen. Enjoy these years and invest in your growth!