Anyone out there have/had a baby and worked a job? Full time? Part time/project based etc ? What did you do and how did you make it work?

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I did it. Freelanced/ran a small biz with infant attached to me. Couldn’t afford childcare, had a partially present partner. Would Not Recommend. It was really, really hard. Making it work is open to interpretation- we both survived, she has no memory of it, but I couldn’t fathom having another kid for several years because the memory was seared into my brain.

Things that do work:
- you get really productive, really fast. Your entire working day needs to fit in the afternoon nap (that’s the reliable one), so you’re basically banking on earning money 2hrs/day.

- build up and be around a support network, preferably other people who have the same juggle as you do. They’re the ones who will be constructive with you, and not make you feel like a perpetual failure.

- I learned (and re-learned during the pandemic) that I can’t be two people at once, meaning a mom and an employee/consultant etc. I can toggle between the two, and pivot like a swivelmaster, but being both at precisely the same time will end me. If my kid needs me to feed them or look at their art project while I also need to explain something on a work call, my world starts to burn down. Avoid situations that foster that split human down the middle crap.

- time alone is gold. If you can leave the baby with someone and go work from a cafe for 2 hours a day between feedings or whatever, do it. It’ll help you stay sane.

There’s probably more but it’s all a blur. My DMs are open if any of this was helpful.

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All of what PM 1 said. I came back from mat leave into the pandemic world with no family around, no trusted or available babysitting and a partially present partner. And my boss got upset each time he would hear my baby on the phone. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. He’s been in 9-5 play school for 4 weeks and it was life changing.

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Hats off to the single parents.
As someone else said, you learn to be very efficient.
So yeah, with a supportive partner you get about 4 hours of sleep. (As a scientist, I wonder how mothers do with no sleep. I think there is a metabolic process/hormones that science doesn't know about (b/c research has been male-driven, duh!)).

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Nannies and a partner as fully committed to parenting

Yes, 2 kids, full time. How? Full time nanny and leaned in partner.

Yes. Full time nanny, fully engaged partner. Not easy to balance it all but you can make it work

Had 3 kids under 4. And a full time job. Very challenging. A great partner and au pairs made things run smoothly. But it was tough.

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